The Checklist: The Perfect Tool for Choosing the PERFECT Mate

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AuthorHouse, Aug 20, 2010 - Psychology - 68 pages
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Evaluating the people you date against The Checklist will help you avoid investing time, energy and emotion in a relationship that will ultimately end in misery. Most of us have engaged in a relationship that we wished we had managed to avoid. If we had only had a crystal ball that could show us what path to take we would've walked away from the relationship long before we got hurt.

The Checklist is the next best thing to a crystal ball. It provides 7 criterion that you can use to determine the viability of a life-long relationship. To the degree that the person you are dating doesn't meet one or more criterion on The Checklist

you have handicapped yourself and accepted a relationship that has a high chance of failure. On the other hand, if you find someone who meets all 7 criterion on The Checklist the author guarantees a lifetime of happiness with that individual - if you can manage to marry them.

The 7 criterion were developed by the author over a four year period after his ex-wife left him with several children to raise on his own. For those that are familiar with US singer/song writer Kenny Rogers' famous line "You picked a fine time to leave me, Lucille", this was just such a moment . The pain of divorce was magnified by the difficulty of being a single parent several times over. But out of the crucible of the author's experiences came The Checklist, a gift for anyone who truly wants to find Mister or Miss Right.

Nigel Hughes uses stories from his life that flesh out the origin and rationale of each criterion. You will find yourself deeply touched by the stories and completely convinced by his compelling logic.

This is an easy must read for anyone wanting a permanent relationship. And it's the essential field guide for that friend, son, daughter, parent or sibling that is looking for someone with whom to share the rest of their life.


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Nigel Hughes was a divorced single parent for a number of years, and thus highly motivated to find the right person the second time around. Over three years of intense study and soul searching led him to develop the criterion in this book and ultimately to his wife of nearly thirty years. The author is an avid observer of human nature and loves helping people. What money he doesn't need he gives to charity or panhandlers. He firmly believes that anything you do to or for another human being will come back to you tenfold: if it is good, to your good; if it is bad, to your condemnation and misery. He tries to see the best in people and never says anything privately about someone that he would not say in their presence.While Hughes has had a significantly challenging adult life, he has also cultivated much happiness and would not trade his growth experiences for billions of Euros, rupees, yen or dollars. His philosophy is to live a life that no one will envy and drive cars that no one wants to steal. To the author, adulation is poison and anonymity the true key to happiness. His pursuit of simplicity leads him to a home void of television. The highlight of his day is the nightly dinner with family--where the favorite pastime is discussion of a good article or book. Or, more often than not, laughing at the effects of Dad's simple life. Nigel Hughes considers his greatest accomplishments to be maintaining sanity during his years as a single parent, keeping his wife happy for almost three decades, and nurturing children and grandchildren into the exciting 2lst century. His profession has provided him with opportunity to explore different cultures and he currently lives somewhere on Planet Earth.

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