The Dynamics of Powerful Parenting: A Human Nature Approach
Trafford Publishing, 2005 - 177 pages
The Dynamics of Powerful Parenting is a book about power, the power held by a parent to shape the development of a child, and the power of a child to either accept or reject those efforts.
Often, when things are not working well for parents with their children, they will continue doing the same things, yet with ever more vigor. Usually, the result will be more of the same, only worse. A secret to understanding the dynamics of many human behaviors lies in the paradox of the Chinese Finger Puzzle (aka: Chinese Handcuff). The Chinese finger puzzle is a tube woven from bamboo shoots that is several inches long and about the diameter of a person's fingers; true to its nature, the tube will narrow as its ends are pulled. Thus, when the tube is slipped over the ends of fingers or thumbs on opposing hands, the subject's efforts to pull his or her fingers apart are met with increasing resistance from the device.
So it is with much of being human. The thing that people wish to avoid most is the very thing that results from their efforts to do so.
Dynamics is a book written with this paradox in mind. It is a book of insights about parenting that turns upside down many of the things that are currently held dear in "traditional" parenting efforts. It is a book that downplays the use of punishment, but never overlooks the need for discipline and responsibility. Dynamics encourages parents to think about what they are doing, how they are doing it, and what are they are experiencing as a result, then provides useful tools for changing undesired outcomes. It is a book that can produce positive results that will benefit generations yet unborn.
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1 INFANCY AND THE PARADOX OF LIFE
TODDLERHOOD AND THE TYRANNICAL CHILD
4 POWER AS STRONG MEDICINE
5 WINNING IS A GOOD THING
6 CONTAINMENT REVISITED
HOLDINGS AND RESTRAINTS
WORK AS PUNISHMENT 6 THROUGH 17
RIDING IN CARS WITH NOISE
THE BUSINESS OF PARENTING
WINWIN PARENTING WORKSHEET
TAKE IT ONE DAY AT A TIMEA DIALOGUE