The Emotionally Abusive Relationship: How to Stop Being Abused and How to Stop Abusing

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Wiley, Sep 9, 2002 - Self-Help - 266 pages
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PRAISE FOR the emotionally abusive relationship

"A good, solid treatment of an insidious but all-too-common type of relationship in which the weapons are words and moods rather than the fist, but which do just as much damage. Most importantly, Ms. Engel doesn’t just describe–she shows us the way out."
–Susan Forward, Ph.D., author of Emotional Blackmail

"In this book, Beverly Engel clearly and with caring offers step-by-step strategies to stop emotional abuse. She explores the dynamics of emotional abuse, helping both victims and abusers to identify the patterns of this painful and traumatic type of abuse. This book is a guide both for individuals and for couples stuck in the tragic patterns of emotional abuse."
–Marti Loring, Ph.D., author of Emotional Abuse and coeditor of The Journal of Emotional Abuse

"This groundbreaking book succeeds in helping people stop emotional abuse by focusing on both the abuser and the abused and showing each party what emotional abuse is, how it affects the relationship, and how to stop it. Its unique focus on the dynamic relationship makes it more likely that each person will grasp the tools for change and really use them."
–Randi Kreger, author of The Stop Walking on Eggshells Workbook and owner of

"This is a must read for anyone who identifies with being emotionally abused or emotionally abusive. Beverly Engel not only offers a detailed description of the components of emotional abuse, she goes on to offer practical suggestions for healing both for individuals and for couples."
–Steven Farmer, Ph.D., author of Adult Children of Abusive Parents and Sacred Ceremony


For The Power of Apology

"Important insights on healing the past with new perspectives on apology."
–Gerald G. Jampolsky, M.D., author of Forgiveness: The Greatest Healer of All and Love Is Letting Go of Fear

For Loving Him without Losing You

"Loving Him without Losing You is a powerful and practical guide to relationships that every woman should read!"
–Barbara De Angelis, Ph.D., author of Secrets About Life
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According to therapist Engel (Partners in Recovery), "even the most loving person" is capable of emotional abuse-that is, "any non-physical behavior designed to control, intimidate, subjugate ... Read full review

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Great book and great value. I learned a lot from this book and made a lot of decisions upon completion. You cant put a price tag on knowledge. Read full review

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About the author (2002)

BEVERLY ENGEL is an internationally recognized therapist with an expertise in women’s issues, relationships, sexuality, and abuse. She is the author of several nonfiction books dealing with relationships, abuse, and women’s issues, including Loving Him Without Losing You and The Power of Apology, both from Wiley, and The Emotionally Abused Woman. Engel conducts professional training programs, lectures several times a year, and has appeared on many national television shows, including Oprah, Donahue, Ricki Lake, Sally Jessy Raphael, and others.

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