The Marriage Clinic: A Scientifically-based Marital Therapy

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W. W. Norton & Company, 1999 - Psychology - 456 pages
Here one will find not only a wide range of succinct and useful assessment procedures, but also a highly specific, research-based, and modularized treatment program. In addition, there are dozens of questionnaires and interview protocols to be used in both assessment and intervention.

In prospective, long-term research with over 700 couples, Gottman has discovered certain factors that distinguish happy, stable couples from both unstable, ultimately divorcing couples and stable but unhappy couples. These findings, which are explained here in understandable, nontechnical language, form the basis of his Sound Marital House theory of marriage, which guides the new therapy. This therapy has two goals: changing the marital friendship and teaching couples to regulate conflict.

Despite the high aims of much marital therapy, Gottman found that most marital conflicts involve fundamentally unresolvable relationship issues called "perpetual problems." He shows how therapists can help spouses move from gridlock to dialogue on these issues. Solvable problems can be resolved more easily when the couple has a strong marital friendship. He gives therapists the tools to teach spouses five fundamental skills to develop and strengthen their friendship: softened start-up, accepting influence, repair and de-escalation, compromise, and physiological soothing.

Gottman compares his clinic to a restaurant, where clients are offered a menu of treatment formats, from psychoeducation for specific issues to extended therapy to repair a badly damaged marital friendship. Therapists, too, can choose among the questionnaires and strategies for those that fit the needs of particular couples. Whatever their choice, they will find that their practice is greatly enriched by the scientifically-based offerings of The Marriage Clinic.
 

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This book by John Gottman deals with nearly all aspects of marital therapy: myths and mistakes, assessment methods, and interventions. It is strictly research oriented, i.e. Gottman does not follow a ... Read full review

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This book is great. Lots of great assessments to use in your practice and very practical material. my only complaint is the binding company that was used. I am in a class with 7 others and all of our books are falling apart at the seams (its only our second month using the book in class). Hopefully Gottman will change his publishing company next time. 

Contents

1 Guide to Gottman and Colleagues Longitudinal Studies
28
Repair and the Core Triad of Balance
31
1 Husbands Influence Function on Wife
34
4 Bar graphs of differences between lowrisk and highrisk
40
8 Distance and Isolation Cascade
73
1 What Is Dysfunctional in Ailing Marriages
86
A Theory of Marriage
87
1 Mismatches and the DemandWithdraw Pattern
96
1 Dreams Within ConflictSample Dreams
248
1 Family Rituals
261
Resistance to Change
266
Other Sources of Resistance
279
1 Aftermath of a Marital Argument Questionnaire
282
Working as a Team and Termi
292
1 Gottman Mountain Survival Problem
295
5 Marital Poop Detector
301

1 The Sound Marital House Theory
105
The Assessment of Marriage
113
Appendices
114
1 Clinicians Checklist for Marital Assessment
115
Appendix
122
The Disasters and Masters of Marriage
161
Chapter 6
179
1 Love Map Cards
204
6 Triumphs and Strivings
210
10 Gottman Relaxation Instructions
216
1 Perpetual Issues
219
3 Rules for Softened Startup
226
Emotion and Metaemotion
307
Buffering Children front Marital Conflict
322
1 Differences in Teaching Styles of EC and ED Parents
324
Afterword
332
The Sound Marital House Questionnaires
375
Turning Toward or Away
381
The Basic Interviews
396
Intervention Tools
406
Appendix E Products Available from the Gottman Institute
421
References
423
Index
443
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John M. Gottman, PhD, is William Mifflin Professor of Psychology at the University of Washington in Seattle. World-renowned for his work on marital stability and divorce prediction, Dr. Gottman has conducted 40 years of breakthrough research with thousands of couples. He is the author of over two dozen books, including Seven Principles to Making Marriage Work, The Heart of Parenting (with J. DeClaire), When Men Batter Women (with Neil Jacobson), Why Marriages Succeed or Fail, The Marriage Clinic, and The Science of Trust.

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