The New Codependency: Help and Guidance for Today's Generation

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Simon and Schuster, Dec 30, 2008 - Self-Help - 288 pages
In Codependent No More, Melody Beattie introduced the world to the term codependency. Now a modern classic, this book established Beattie as a pioneer in self-help literature and endeared her to millions of readers who longed for healthier relationships. Twenty-five years later concepts such as self-care and setting boundaries have become entrenched in mainstream culture. Now Beattie has written a followup volume, The New Codependency, which clears up misconceptions about codependency, identifies how codependent behavior has changed, and provides a new generation with a road map to wellness.

The question remains: What is and what is not codependency? Beattie here reminds us that much of codependency is normal behavior. It's about crossing lines. There are times we do too much, care too much, feel too little, or overly engage. Feeling resentment after giving is not the same as heartfelt generosity. Narcissism and self-love, enabling and nurturing, and controlling and setting boundaries are not interchangeable terms. In The New Codependency, Beattie explores these differences, effectively invoking her own inspiring story and those of others, to empower us to step out of the victim role forever. Codependency, she shows, is not an illness but rather a series of behaviors that once broken down and analyzed can be successfully combated.

Each section offers an overview of and a series of activities pertaining to a particular behavior -- caretaking, controlling, manipulation, denial, repression, etc. -- enabling us to personalize our own step-bystep guide to wellness. These sections, in conjunction with a series of tests allowing us to assess the level of our codependent behavior, demonstrate that while it may not seem possible now, we have the power to take care of ourselves, no matter what we are experiencing.

Punctuated with Beattie's renowned candor and intuitive wisdom, The New Codependency is an owner's manual to learning to be who we are and gives us the tools necessary to reclaim our lives by renouncing unhealthy practices.
 

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User Review  - justablondemoment - LibraryThing

I found this to be an informative well written book. I didn't really get anything new out of it though, much a repeat of her first book...Codependency no more. Still, it was a good refresher. Read full review

Great book for new codependents

User Review  - atraines - Overstock.com

This book is wonderful. After just being labeled as a codependent I had no idea of what that meant or how to improve. This book helped me grasp what codependency is and how to move on. It is a wonderful feeling to know that others relate to the same situations. Read full review

Contents

section one crossing lines and Getting back over them Again 1 taking care of ourselves
1
how to use this handbook
4
What codependency is and isnt
8
the new codependency
11
letting Go of stigma from the label
15
section tWo breaking Free from the control trap and Getting some Grace 1 the evolving Art of selfcare
19
boundaries
24
caretaking
40
healing What hurts
148
the Freedom to be Who We Are
151
nonresistance
154
sexual intimacy and codependency
157
surrendering our Way into Grace
168
section three
177
emotional health Quiz
178
Anger Quiz
185

chemically dependent and codependent
59
communication
78
control
95
denial
103
dependency
105
A new legacy from our Family of origin
109
Giving and receiving
115
selflove is contagious
119
Manipulation
124
lets Play
129
nurturing
132
obsession
136
the secrets to Power
140
codependency Progression
145
Fear Quiz
192
drama and Misery Addiction Quiz
198
Guilt Quiz
206
Grief and loss Quiz
215
its only a Feeling 1 opening Pandoras box
223
dealing with Feelings
236
Fear
240
company doesnt love Misery
242
Guilt
244
the Way to the heart
250
section Five
257
how to Find help for Almost everything
268
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Melody Beattie, one of the seminal figures in the recovery movement, is the author of the international bestseller Codependent No More, which has sold over eight million copies and been translated into more than a dozen languages. An expert on codependency, Beattie has written fifteen books, including include Beyond Codependency, The Language of Letting Go, and The Grief Club, and lectures worldwide. She lives in Southern California. For more information visit her website at www.melodybeattie.com.

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