The Primal Wound: Understanding the Adopted Child

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Gateway Press, 1993 - Family & Relationships - 231 pages
THE PRIMAL WOUND: UNDERSTANDING THE ADOPTED CHILD, by Nancy Verrier, is a challenging and courageous work. A book which adoptees call their "bible," it is a must read for anyone connected with adoption: adoptees, birth parents, adoptive parents, therapists, educators and attorneys. Dr. Thomas Verny, author of THE SECRET LIFE OF THE UNBORN CHILD, calls it "the best psychodynamic study of adoptees ever undertaken...tremendously helpful to those who really want to understand their psychological process." In its application of information about perinatal psychology, attachment, bonding and loss, THE PRIMAL WOUND clarifies the effects of separation from the birthmother on adopted children. In addition, it gives adoptees, whose pain has long been unacknowledged or misunderstood, validation for their feelings, as well as explanations for their behavior. As one adoptee said, "Only one thing has caused me more pain and damage than the existence of the primal wound: the world's insistence that it does not exist." The existence of the primal wound and suggestions for healing that wound are intelligently and compassionately set forth in this book, which is fast becoming the quintessential work about the complex and life-long process of adoption. The insight the author brings to the experience of abandonment and loss will contribute not only to the healing of those connected with adoption, but will bring understanding and encouragement to anyone who has ever felt abandoned. To order Contact: Nancy Verrier, publisher, P.O. Box 208, Lafayette, CA 94549. 925-284-5813, Fax 925-284-4248. Bookstores receive a 40% discount when ordering directly from publisher. Also available from Baker and Taylor and Ingram.

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This book is a valuable read for adoptees, adoptive parents, and birth mothers. The author provides a comprehensive survey of many issues that MAY be present in the lives of adopted children and their ... Read full review

I guess the title is fine

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This book was so stupid I thought. As an adoptee I thought it was sooooo untrue. It sounded to me like people using the fact that they are adopted as an excuse for their problems and bad behavior. Im ... Read full review


The Wound
The Connection with the Birthmother
Loss of the Mother and the Sense of Self

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Verrier holds a master's degree in clinical psychology and is in private practice in Lafayette, CA.

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