The Mother's Voice: Strengthening Intimacy in Families

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Harcourt, Brace, 1994 - Family & Relationships - 241 pages
After learning that she had breast cancer, Kathy Weingarten-a family therapist and mother of two-became acutely aware of the crippling cultural messages about mothering that kept her from sharing herself intimately with her children. "I wanted to understand why I was so willing to let my children express themselves," she writes, "but so uncertain about how to express myself with them." Drawing on the tools and case histories of her professional life, the example of her own loving (and beloved) but constrained mother, and the experience of conveying her post-diagnosis feelings to her children, Kathy Weingarten charts an invaluable and inspiring course in working toward a collaborative, nonhierarchical family life. She defies traditional attitudes about response to a child's gender, the importance of fathers, the true nature of listening, and the meaning of separation. She questions the conventional wisdom about mothers that catches them between representing themselves accurately to their families and representing themselves acceptably. Although mindful of not burdening children with more information than thy should bear, a crucial message of this stirring book is that children can't be properly prepared for their onw intense lives without knowing the ways their loved ones cope with theirs. And, no less important, that intimacy is achieved only through honesty of expression-the authentic, not the "good," mother's voice. To the silenced parent, Kathy Weingarten offers relief, clarity, and direction.

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Family therapist Weingarten digs beneath society's expectations and its image of the perfect mother to examine the question of how a woman can be a parent and still retain her individual ``voice ... Read full review

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When Weingarten, a family therapist, was diagnosed with breast cancer, she was struck with her hesitancy to express her fears and emotions to her two adolescent children. This book is an exploration ... Read full review


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Kathy Weingarten, PhD, is Co-Director of the Program in Narrative Therapies at The Family Institute of Cambridge and Assistant Professor of Psychology at Harvard Medical School. The author of numerous articles and the editor of several books, she speaks internationally on mothers' lives, narrative therapy, and illness. nbsp;

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