The Ten Basic Principles of Good Parenting

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Simon and Schuster, 2004 - Family & Relationships - 207 pages
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"For the most part, parenting is something we just do, without really giving it much thought," says Laurence Steinberg, one of the country's most distinguished psychologists. Most of us parent by instinct, he says, but with a better understanding of what works when you parent, and why, your instincts will get better and so will your ability to cope with the unique challenges -- and joys -- of being a parent.

Over his three decades of research on children and families, Dr. Steinberg noticed that the scientific evidence linking certain principles of parenting to healthy child development was so clear and consistent that these same principles could be applied universally, regardless of a family's income, race, or single- or two-parent status. He distilled these fundamentals into ten principles, and in The Ten Basic Principles of Good Parenting, he shows how they can help to sustain parents as they raise their children from infancy to adolescence. These principles articulate a philosophy of parenting -- a style of parenting -- and so they work whether parents are faced with a screaming toddler or a rebellious teen.

Dr. Steinberg explains and illustrates each principle with anecdotes and examples, from "What You Do Matters" (parents make an enormous difference; children are not simply the product of their genes) to "Establish Rules and Set Limits" (how to provide structure in your child's life, and how to handle conflicts over rules) and "Help Foster Your Child's Independence" (help your child think through decisions; don't just make them for him or her). The goal, says Dr. Steinberg, is to foster positive development in your child -- to help your child become competent, responsible, secure, and kind.

The Ten Basic Principles of Good Parenting is a map for the journey through parenthood, a book parents can read and then return to whenever they start to lose their way. Concise and authoritative, written with warmth and compassion, it is not only an intelligent guide to raising a happy, healthy child; it is also a guide to becoming a happier, more confident parent.

"For the most part, parenting is something we just do, without really giving it much thought," says Laurence Steinberg, one of the country's most distinguished psychologists. Most of us parent by instinct, he says, but with a better understanding of what works when you parent, and why, your instincts will get better and so will your ability to cope with the unique challenges -- and joys -- of being a parent.

Over his three decades of research on children and families, Dr. Steinberg noticed that the scientific evidence linking certain principles of parenting to healthy child development was so clear and consistent that these same principles could be applied universally, regardless of a family's income, race, or single- or two-parent status. He distilled these fundamentals into ten principles, and in The Ten Basic Principles of Good Parenting, he shows how they can help to sustain parents as they raise their children from infancy to adolescence. These principles articulate a philosophy of parenting -- a style of parenting -- and so they work whether parents are faced with a screaming toddler or a rebellious teen.

Dr. Steinberg explains and illustrates each principle with anecdotes and examples, from "What You Do Matters" (parents make an enormous difference; children are not simply the product of their genes) to "Establish Rules and Set Limits" (how to provide structure in your child's life, and how to handle conflicts over rules) and "Help Foster Your Child's Independence" (help your child think through decisions; don't just make them for him or her). The goal, says Dr. Steinberg, is to foster positive development in your child -- to help your child become competent, responsible, secure, and kind.

The Ten Basic Principles of Good Parenting is a map for the journey through parenthood, a book parents can read and then return to whenever they start to lose their way. Concise and authoritative, written with warmth and compassion, it is not only an intelligent guide to raising a happy, healthy child; it is also a guide to becoming a happier, more confident parent.

 

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Contents

Being a Better Parent
1
What You Do Matters
9
You Cannot Be Too Loving
27
Be Involved in Your Childs Life
47
Adapt Your Parenting to Fit Your Child
65
Establish Rules and Set Limits
87
Help Foster Your Childs Independence
107
Principle 7 Be Consistent
127
Avoid Harsh Discipline
143
Explain Your Rules and Decisions
159
Treat Your Child with Respect
179
Index
193
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Laurence Steinberg, Ph.D., is the Distinguished University Professor and Laura H. Carnell Professor of Psychology at Temple University and a former president of the Society for Research on Adolescence. A Fellow of the American Psychological Association, Dr. Steinberg is the author or coauthor of several previous books, including You and Your Adolescent and Beyond the Classroom. His work has also appeared in The New York Times, The Wall Street Journal, Psychology Today, Ladies' Home Journal, and The Washington Post, among other publications. He lives with his family in suburban Philadelphia.

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