UnSelfie: Why Empathetic Kids Succeed in Our All-About-Me World

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Simon and Schuster, May 23, 2017 - FAMILY & RELATIONSHIPS - 304 pages
Hailed as “an absolute must-read” (Jean Twenge) and a book that “will change your kids’ lives” (Jack Canfield), UnSelfie by Dr. Michele Borba explains what parents and educators MUST do to combat the growing empathy crisis among children today—including a 9-step empathy-building program with tips to guide kids from birth through college, and beyond.

Teens today are forty percent less empathetic than they were thirty years ago. Why is a lack of empathy—which goes hand-in-hand with the self-absorption epidemic Dr. Michele Borba calls the Selfie Syndrome—so dangerous? First, it hurts kids’ academic performance and leads to bullying behaviors. Also, it correlates with more cheating and less resilience. And once children grow up, a lack of empathy hampers their ability to collaborate, innovate, and problem-solve—all must-have skills for the global economy.

In UnSelfie Dr. Borba pinpoints the forces causing the empathy crisis and shares a revolutionary, researched-based, nine-step plan for reversing it.

The good news? Empathy is a trait that can be taught and nurtured. Dr. Borba offers a framework for parenting that yields the results we all want: successful, happy kids who also are kind, moral, courageous, and resilient. UnSelfie is a blueprint for parents and educators who want to kids shift their focus from I, me, and mine…to we, us, and ours.

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User Review  - GlennBell - LibraryThing

The author makes some strong points on the value of empathy. She overemphasizes the value of this ability to the point of criticism of other valuable abilities. I hope to improve this area but not ... Read full review

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I liked the author took on this new idea in our culture to spread narcissism and feed off attention. It was well researched and provided tools for parents to evade selfie culture. Read full review


Chapter 9
Instilling Perspective Taking and Learning
Empathetic Children Have a Moral Imagination
Empathetic Children Can Keep Their Cool
Empathetic Children Practice Kindness
Empathetic Children Stick Their Necks Out

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Michele Borba, EdD, is an internationally renowned educational psychologist and an expert in parenting, bullying, and character development. One of the foremost authorities on childhood development in the country, she is a regular NBC contributor who appears regularly on Today and has been featured as an expert on Dateline, The View, Dr. Phil, NBC Nightly News, Fox & Friends, Dr. Oz, and The Early Show, among many others. She lives in Palm Springs, California, with her husband, and she is the mother of three grown sons.

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