Understanding the Tin Man: Why So Many Men Avoid Intimacy

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Doubleday, 1999 - Self-Help - 201 pages
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Why are men so afraid of showing their feelings? What scares men about commitment? With the same practical wisdom he used in Brothers, Lust, and Love, William July II tackles these age-old questions, shrewdly revealing secrets that every woman wants to know about her man, and that every man needs to know about himself. He explains how boys are conditioned to become emotionally closed-off "Tin Men" (a term he borrows from The Wizard of Oz character who was searching for a heart), leaving them ill-prepared to share their feelings or participate fully in relationships. Taking a realistic, down-to-earth approach, July goes on to provide workable ways for men to change and for women to help the men in their lives overcome the Tin Man syndrome.

Using this book, readers will be able to:
-- Recognize a Tin Man
-- Understand the real reasons why a man fears intimacy
-- See through the tactics men use to avoid commitment and relationships
-- Discover a man's biggest worries about relationships
-- Identify the five situations in which even the most emotionally numb man will share his feelings
-- Help a Tin Man change his life

July's hands-on approach is enhanced by thought-provoking questions and self-improvement exercises, for both men and women, at the end of each chapter. A compelling and informative book (reminiscent of Barbara De Angelis's Secrets About Men Every Woman Should Know -- but written by a man), "Understanding the Tin Man" is a much-needed voice of reason in the battlefield of the sexes.

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William July II is a bestselling author and motivational speaker, and a former patrol officer with the metro police in Houston. In between writing and lecturing, July is pursuing a master's degree in theology and counseling, and he is also a writer-in-residence for Houston's Writers in the Schools program. He lives in Houston with his wife, Jamey Lacy.

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