Verbal Judo: The Gentle Art of Persuasion

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Harper Collins, Mar 2, 2004 - Language Arts & Disciplines - 224 pages
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Improve communication, resolve conflicts, and avoid the most common conversational disasters through simple, easily remembered strategies that deflect and redirect negative behaviour.

Verbal Judo is the martial art of the mind and mouth that can show you how to be better prepared in every verbal encounter. Listen and speak more effectively, engage people through empathy (the most powerful word in the English language), avoid the most common conversational disasters, and use proven strategies that allow you to successfully communicate your point of view and take the upper hand in most disputes.

 

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Great book great price. I borrowed a copy to read for myself then bought one as a Christmas present because its such a great book. It really teaches you to hold your tongue and use your mind. I would recommend it to anyone who is trying to grow professionally or as a person. Read full review

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Take my opinions for what they're worth, as I'm neither prematurely confrontational nor a cop.
The author starts by establishing his credentials, recounts an entertaining anecdote, and lays out a
mneumonic-based system to elicit voluntary compliance through empathy and respect. He repeats this formula until the book reaches a respectable thickness. The result is readable, entertaining, and possibly useful if you're looking for anger management tips from someone who's been there. 

Contents

A Decade Later
9
INTRODUCTION Communication as a Noncontact Sport
11
Birth of a Communication Samurai
15
Motivating the Disagreeable
21
Baptism of Fire
25
Taking Crap with Dignity and Style
31
The Nice the Difficult and the Wimp
39
Eleven Things Never to Say to Anyone And How to Respond If Some Idiot Says Them to You
47
Translation
111
Mediation
121
What Makes This All So Difficult
127
ReadinRitin and Rhetoric
135
How to Diagnose a Verbal Encounter
147
The Language of Reassurance
153
How to Fight Fair
161
Take the Giant LEAPS
167

The Crucible of the Street
55
The Most Powerful Word in the English Language
63
The Greatest Speech Youll Ever Live to Regret
71
The Only Way to Interrupt People and Still Have Them Love You
79
Verbal Judo Versus Verbal Karate
87
The FiveStep Hard Style
95
Representation
103
Applying LEAPS to Your World
175
Persuasion for Fun and Profit
179
The Misunderstood Motivator
185
You Can Punish Without Drawing Blood
195
Dancing When You Might Have Stumbled
199
Verbal Judo as an Automatic Response
211
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Page 34 - For to win one hundred victories in one hundred battles is not the acme of skill.
Page 73 - Sticks and stones may break my bones, but names will never hurt me.
Page 60 - Yelling at living things does tend to kill the spirit in them. Sticks and stones may break our bones, but words will break our hearts.
Page 179 - The angry man will defeat himself in battle as well as in life.
Page 42 - My father makes more money than you, and who do you think you are to tell me what to do when you can hardly make a living without a strike?'" Another asked, "In my school we have enough of a discipline problem without taking away the little respect that the students might have for the teachers.
Page 10 - Judo can help you maintain those relationships and improve the quality of your life and the lives of those around you.
Page 42 - I'd like the pie heated, and I don't want the ice cream on top, I want it on the side. And I'd like strawberry instead of vanilla, if you have it. If not, then no ice cream, just whipped cream, but only if it's real. If it's out of a can, then nothing.
Page 118 - I'll see what I can do about getting you out of here.
Page 17 - I listened not only to what was said, but also to how it was said.
Page 71 - If it's not alcohol or drugs, it's frustration, fear, impatience, lack of self-worth, defensiveness, and a host of other influences.

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About the author (2004)

George J. Thompson, Ph.D., is a former English professor and a black bet master of karate. He created and crash-tested verbal judo when he was a police officer on an urban beat. He is now a popular lecturer and lives -in Albuquerque, New Mexico. Jerry B. Jenkins was most recently the co-author of Miracle Mon. The Nolan Ryan Story.

Jerry B. Jenkins was born in Kalamazoo, Michigan on September 23, 1949. He is the author of more than 175 books including the Left Behind series, Riven, Matthew's Story, The Last Operative, and The Brotherhood. He is also the former editor of Moody Magazine, and his writing has appeared in Reader's Digest, Parade, Guideposts, and dozens of Christian periodicals. He wrote the nationally syndicated sports story comic strip, Gil Thorp, from 1996-2004. He owns Jenkins Entertainment, a filmmaking company in Los Angeles, which produced the critically-acclaimed movie Hometown Legend, based on his book of the same name. He also owns the Christian Writers Guild, which trains professional Christian writers. As a marriage and family author and speaker, he has been a frequent guest on Dr. James Dobson's Focus on the Family radio program.

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