Why He Didn't Call You Back: 1,000 Guys Reveal What They Really Thought About You After Your Date

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Crown Publishing Group, Apr 7, 2009 - Family & Relationships
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You get that he’s just not that into you, but why?

What really happened when that cute guy never called you back after your date? Why didn’t that intriguing man you flirted with online or at the party ask you out? It’s an annoying mystery. One minute there was a potential romance happening, and the next? He vanished, inexplicably. If you knew why men reacted in these ways, you could do something about it next time when the right guy comes along.

So Rachel Greenwald did what you’re too embarrassed to do yourself. As a renowned dating coach with a Harvard MBA, she applied business savvy to the dating world by conducting in-depth "Exit Interviews" with 1,000 single men, asking them why they hadn’t called back after a date or online flirtation. By refusing to accept glib responses such as "There was just no chemistry," she extracted unabashedly honest and raw answers. It turns out that men leave women hanging for clear, consistent reasons. The Top Ten Date-Breakers–revealed here in Greenwald’s unique research–are the result of signals that women of all ages send unknowingly, but are easily fixed. Citing true anecdotes and case studies, this book examines the most frequent date-breakers that men confessed, and offers practical advice on how you can avoid them.

Greenwald’s goal isn’t for you to pretend to be someone you’re not, but rather to keep the ball in your court. By using her research results as a guide to tweak your comments and gestures, you’ll have more men asking to see you again. Then you can accept or decline their invitations: you’re doing the selecting–not them.

In today’s increasingly complex dating world, both online and offline, learning how to maximize your dates is essential. With a fresh and entertaining behind-the-scenes vantage point, Why He Didn’t Call You Back offers simple solutions that empower women to choose the men they really want to date.


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Moderately interesting. The primary message seems to be 'act nice when you first meet someone,' which is pretty obvious. The individual comments from various people are the best part of the book. A quick read for a trip or a low energy afternoon. Read full review

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About the author (2009)

RACHEL GREENWALD is a professional dating coach, matchmaker, and the international bestselling author of Find a Husband After 35: Using What I Learned at Harvard Business School. She lives in Denver, Colorado, with her husband and three children.


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