Why Men Won't Commit: Getting What You Both Want Without Playing Games

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Simon and Schuster, 2002 - Family & Relationships - 224 pages
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A provocative book that explains why men are so afraid of commitment -- and what women can do about it.
Why is it so hard for a man to say "I love you"? Why is it so hard for a man to ask a woman to marry him, even if this is exactly what he wants? Women work hard at relationships but all too often, just when things seem to be going well, men tend to pull away, cheating themselves out of the happiness they really want...and leaving women feeling hurt and confused. It doesn't have to be that way.
In Why Men Won't Commit, celebrated psychologist Dr. George Weinberg explains the secret fears that make men run away from relationships and the simple things that women can do to overcome them. Men want lasting relationships just as much as women do, but they fear that commitment means loss -- most of all, the loss of masculinity. Men are far more fearful and insecure than most women imagine, with the same basic needs dictating their behavior:
• The need to be special.
• The need to travel light -- to minimize obligations and maximize independence.
• The need for loyalty.
• The need to be close emotionally, whether or not they can ask for it.

Once women understand these needs, they can help men see that commitment is a strength, and not a weakness. Why Men Won't Commit will show women how to enter places where her man has not allowed any other woman to go...and stay there in a loving, committed relationship.
 

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"Men actually want commitment, love, and permanence every bit as much as women do," assures the author of this no-nonsense guide for frustrated women, but they often act as if they don't because of ... Read full review

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Men Are the Weaker Sex
15
See Me As I Really Am Not Only As I Pretend to Be YOUR MANS FIRST BASIC NEEDTHE CRAVING TO BE SPECIAL
25
Keeping It Light When You Start to Care YOUR MANS SECOND BASIC NEEDTO TRAVEL LIGHT
45
Be There for Me Im Scared YOUR MANS THIRD BASIC NEEDLOYALTY
67
Give Me the Love That Im Too Ashamed to Ask For YOUR MANS FOURTH BASIC NEEDTO BE CLOSE EMOTIONALLY
88
Sexthe Technicolor Experience
115
When Worlds CollideHis Friends and Yours
137
How to Argue with a Lover
161
When Theres Big Trouble ARE YOU GIVING TOO MUCH?
188
Your Most Important Relationship
212
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George Henry Weinberg was born in Manhattan, New York on May 17, 1929. He received a bachelor's degree from City College, a master's degree in English from New York University in 1951, and a doctorate in clinical psychology from Columbia University. In 1965, he invented the word homophobia to describe the discomfort that some people exhibited around gay men and women. He discussed this issue in Society and the Healthy Homosexual, which was published in 1972. He was an advocate of gay rights and helped lead the campaign that led the American Psychiatric Association to remove homosexuality from the second edition of its Diagnostic and Statistical Manual, a handbook of psychological disorders. He wrote several books during his lifetime including The Action Approach: How Your Personality Developed and How You Can Change It, Self Creation, Numberland, Shakespeare on Love, Invisible Masters: Compulsions and the Fear That Drives Them, Why Men Won't Commit: Getting What You Both Want Without Playing Games, and Will Power!: Using Shakespeare's Insights to Transform Your Life written with his wife Dianne Rowe. He also wrote the textbook Statistics: An Intuitive Approach. He died from cancer on March 20, 2017 at the age of 86.

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