You just don't understand: women and men in conversation

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Ballantine, 1990 - Family & Relationships - 330 pages
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"A chatty, earnest and endearing book that promises here-and-now rewards for taking the trouble to listen more carefully to what others are saying--and to be more sensitive to what others are hearing." LOS ANGELES TIMES Discover how men and women can interpret the same conversation differently, even when there is no apparent misunderstanding. Discover why sinscere attempts to communicate are so often confounded, and how we can prevent or relieve some of the frustration. This fascinating, helpful, and controversial book--on the NEW YORK TIMES Bestseller list for two years!--explores, in depth the differing style men and women articulate, and how to work through it and get to the heart of the matter. Includes information on African Americans, arguing, authority, body language, childrenʼs interaction, conversational styles (Antiguan, Greek, Italian, Jewish, Malgasy, New England, New York Jewish, Norwegian, Russian, Spanish, Swedish, Tenejapa, Thai), cross cultural communication, fighting, framing, friendship, gossip, Greece, indirectness, interruption, stereotypes of Jews, jokes, metamessages, professors, public speaking, rapport talk, report talk, secrets, silence, storytelling, etc.

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User Review  - Anabananalisa Salomonis - Goodreads

herterosexist and closed minded. If you can look past that I guess there's some interesting points, but so hard to look past. Read full review


User Review  - junkyarddog -

A good explantion of the different communicaiton methods and expectations of men and women. Read full review


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About the author (1990)

Deborah Tannen is the bestselling author of "The Argument Culture", "Talking from 9 to 5", "That's Not What I Meant", & "You Just Don't Understand", which was on "The New York Times" bestseller list for nearly four years, including eight months as number one. She is a professor at Georgetown University, in Washington D.C. "I Only Say This Because I Love You" is her seventeenth book. Her latest book is entitled, "You Were Always Mom's Favorite: Sisters in Conversation Throughout Their Lives.