You just don't understand: women and men in conversation

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Morrow, 1990 - Family & Relationships - 330 pages
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Synopsis: Women and men live in different worlds...made of different words. Spending nearly four years on the New York Times bestseller list, including eight months at number one, You Just Don't Understand is a true cultural and intellectual phenomenon. This is the book that brought gender differences in ways of speaking to the forefront of public awareness. With a rare combination of scientific insight and delightful, humorous writing, Tannen shows why women and men can walk away from the same conversation with completely different impressions of what was said. Studded with lively and entertaining examples of real conversations, this book gives you the tools to understand what went wrong - and to find a common language in which to strengthen relationships at work and at home. A classic in the field of interpersonal relations, this book will change forever the way you approach conversations.

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User Review  - Anabananalisa Salomonis - Goodreads

herterosexist and closed minded. If you can look past that I guess there's some interesting points, but so hard to look past. Read full review


User Review  - junkyarddog -

A good explantion of the different communicaiton methods and expectations of men and women. Read full review


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Deborah Tannen is the bestselling author of "The Argument Culture", "Talking from 9 to 5", "That's Not What I Meant", & "You Just Don't Understand", which was on "The New York Times" bestseller list for nearly four years, including eight months as number one. She is a professor at Georgetown University, in Washington D.C. "I Only Say This Because I Love You" is her seventeenth book. Her latest book is entitled, "You Were Always Mom's Favorite: Sisters in Conversation Throughout Their Lives.

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