kids are worth it! Revised Edition: Giving Your Child the Gift of Inner Discipline
The parenting classic, now revised with new chapters, checklists, and information about today's most pressing issues regarding our children
This bestselling guide rejects "quick-fix" solutions and focuses on helping kids develop their own self-discipline by owning up to their mistakes, thinking through solutions, and correcting their misdeeds while leaving their dignity intact. Barbara Coloroso shows these principles in action through dozens of examples -- from sibling rivalry to teenage rebellion; from common misbehaviors to substance abuse and antisocial behavior. She also explains how to parent strong-willed children, effective alternatives to time-outs, bribes, and threats, and how to help kids resolve disputes and serious injustices such as bullying.
Filled with practical suggestions for handling the ordinary and extraordinary tribulations of growing up, kids are worth it! helps you help your children grow into responsible, resilient, resourceful adults -- not because you tell them to, but because they want to.
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“If we are to raise kids who can think and act ethically, we don’t begin with the thinking or the acting. We begin with caring.” —Barbara Coloroso
In her now-classic kids are worth it! , Barbara Coloroso offered solid advice and practical parenting techniques that above all preserved the dignity of both parent and child. Coloroso’s underlying parenting vision ascribes to parents the responsibility to teach the next generation how to think, not just what to think, so that they may grow into the best people they can be.
Now, in this groundbreaking new book—a natural extension and a profound deepening of her original vision—Coloroso shows parents how to nurture their children’s ethical lives, from preschool through adolescence.
There can be no more necessary book for our times.
We live in a world where children are so often given the message that the ends justify the means; where harmful, even violent behavior—in families, in communities, and around the world—goes unnoticed, unmitigated, and often unrepented; where children’s ethical education can come from a T-shirt slogan or bumper sticker, an Internet site, or the evening news; where rigid moral absolutism or moral relativism has replaced true ethical thinking. In a world such as ours, Just Because It’s Not Wrong Doesn’t Make It Right is an essential tool.
Beginning with the idea that it is in us to care that we are born with an innate capacity for compassion and caring, Coloroso shows parents how to nurture and guide children’s ethical lives from toddlerhood through the teen years using everyday situations at home, at school, in social settings, and in the world at large.
Rich in advice and anecdotes, Just Because It’s Not Wrong Doesn’t Make It Right offers no less than an ethical vision, one rooted in deep caring, by which we and succeeding generations may not only live, but thrive.
Chapter Two Three Kinds of Families
Threats Punishment Bribes and Rewards
The Triangle of InfluenceEncouragment
Three Alternatives to No and Other Plan Bs
I Can Be Me
Keeping Your Cool without Putting Your
Realities Mistakes and Problems
Getting Your Kid Out of jail and Other
The Big C and the Three Rs Chores
Bedtime Doesnt Have to
Ready Sit GoToilet Training
Sexuality Is Not a FourLetter Word
Settling Sibling Rivalry without Calling