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Becky Kueker thought she had it all, publishing a new book, Hiding in My Pajamas, three years ago, and launching a national speaking career traveling the country at 75. What more could you ask coming off a two year low after she retired struggling with the emotional stereotypes that deal with retirement and aging. It was not until a complicated surgery requiring six months in a wheelchair and endless rehab, turned her life in a new direction she could never have expected. Fighting fear, depression and the realization that she would once again have to start over, Becky shares her journey facing a new beginning discovering that it’s laughter that changes everything. Meeting passionate people who inspired her, chapters are filled with poignant stories from women and men who have proven that aging does not have to define you and new beginnings are possible. Their stories are powerful and highlight the determination it takes to live your best life and what the passage of time means to how capable we are of embracing change. Not being financially prepared for retirement has become a national epidemic. Her chapter, Learning to Live After Retirement, features stories from those who were unaware that not planning was just speculating and rolling the dice on what might be. The shock that their savings will not be sufficient to retain the lifestyle they lived before offers a glimpse of a generation not prepared. Interviewing her husband and other men about retirement and aging highlights the unexpected marital turbulence that finds its way into very personal struggles that no one saw coming.
“At last!A realistic and insightful book that reveals what really happens when you retire. Filled with humor and honesty this inspirational story is sometimes painful, often funny, always practical and thoroughly captivating.”
—Rose Castillo Guilbault, author of Farmworker’s Daughter: Growing up Mexican in America and The Latina’s Guide to Success in the Workplace
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When I finished reading this delightful, candid, unfiltered book on Becky’s retirement journey it reminded me of a wealth management client that came in to talk to be about a very serious issue. She passed me a sheet of paper with financial info with a big “R” on the top. She said, I can’t even say the word. Perplexed I inquired what the BIG “R “was all about. Yes, my client could not even say the work RETIREMENT. Becky’s second book on the BIG “R” is a deep, funny, intimate discussion on what many of us, not only can’t verbalize but have often given absolutely no idea of the day to day impact of what the big “R” will actually be like.
Many, and as Becky’s clearly outlines, not all of us, have taken some of the financial steps to planning for this journey but most of us have NOT even envisioned what our emotional, daily life will be like. Becky does discuss the financial aspects of retirement preparedness but her book delves into many other critical areas in a most humorous, entertaining but candidly raw way. Becky is able to talk courageously about her own depression as she encountered the unknown and unexpected emotions of this journey.
Becky touches on so many powerful topics that we can all relate to but most likely have never thought about. So many of the topics will be interesting open discussions for our friends, family and colleagues. In fact, this would absolutely be a great book for book clubs or other forums that lend to discussions.
Without giving a “spoiler alert” two very powerful chapters, to me, were “The Power of Together for a Purpose” and “From a Man’s Perspective”. Becky in the “The Power of Together for a Purpose “offers us the freedom and guidance to accept our life now and that is very empowering. While women are notorious for our ability to talk about the touchy feely aspects of life, men often are not. “From a Man’s Perspective” should be required reading for women and men, before, during and after they retire. This is another chapter will facilitate real conversations. I thank the men who openly shared their thoughts, pain and insights as they venture on the BIG “R” journey.
Personally, I have found exciting new doors open for me in my retirement and the ability to spend more quality time with my family, I have still gained powerful new insights from this book. When my husband finally retires, I know this will be valuable, often reread guide for the next phase of our journey.
Kathy Wehrfritz, St. Louis, MO
PrefaceBy Becky Kueker i Chapter 1 Learning to Live in the Moment
Living After RetirementThe Cost of Aging 13 Chapter 3 Depression Made Me Do It
When Is Enough Enough?
Creating Your Own View of You
Romance Is a Pesky Business 91 Chapter 7 A Funny Thing Happened on the Way to the Hospital 109 Chapter 8 The Power of Together for a Purpos...