No Time to Say Goodbye: Surviving the Suicide of a Loved OneSuicide would appear to be the last taboo. Even incest is now discussedfreely in the popular media, but the suicide of a loved one is still an actmost people are unable to talk about--or even admit to their closest family andfriends. This is just one of the many painful and paralyzing truths authorCarla Fine discovered when her husband, a successful young physician, took hisown life in December 1989. And being unable to speak openly and honestly aboutthe cause of her pain made it all the more difficult for her to survive. With "No Time to Say Goodbye," she brings suicide survival from thedarkness into the light, speaking frankly and with compassion about theoverwhelming feelings of confusion, guilt, shame, anger and loneliness that areshared by all survivors. Drawing on her own experience and on conversationswith many other survivors--as well as on the knowledge of counselors and mentalhealth professionals--Carla Fine offers a strong helping hand and invaluableguidance to the thousands of husbands and wives, mothers and fathers, sistersand brothers, friends and lovers who are left behind each year, struggling tomake sense of an act that seems to them senseless, and to pick up the pieces oftheir own shattered lives. And, perhaps most important, she allows them to seethat they are not alone in their feelings of grief and despair. Her resource section, listing organizations and survivor groups throughout theUnited States and Canada, as well as her bibliography of further reading, will, in themselves, provide invaluable information and support. Carla Fine is the author of two earlier books ," Married to Medicine: AnIntimate Portrait of Doctors' Wives" and "Barron's Guide toForeignMedical Schools." She has written articles for "Cosmopolitan," "Woman's Day," and "Omni," and has appeared on national televisionprograms, as well as on many local TV and radio shows around the country. Shelives in New York City. " "No Time to Say Goodbye" has put into words my experiences of a decade.The knowledge to be gained by reading this book is impossible to estimate, andI recommend it to all who have experienced a loss to suicide, regardless of howlong ago. I also recommend it to my colleagues who will or have lost a clientto suicide, and finally, to all people in our country so they may no longer beconfused about the impact of suicide. Carla Fine safely and gently takes thereader on a journey that until now has been indescribable." "Suicide survivors will hear in Carla Fine's extraordinary book what we all toorarely hear--the honest and deeply human voices of others who have endure thebafflement and desolation of a loved one's suicide. We learn here that the darklegacy of suicide can be borne with dignity, forgiveness and hope." |
