Disarming the Narcissist: Surviving and Thriving with the Self-Absorbed

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New Harbinger Publications, Mar 1, 2008 - Psychology - 176 pages
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How can you handle the narcissistic people in your life? They're frustrating (and maybe even intimidating) to deal with. You might need to interact with some of them in social or professional settings, and you might even love one-so sometimes it just doesn't work to simply ignore them. You need to find a way of communicating effectively with narcissists, getting your point across and meeting your needs while side-stepping unproductive power struggles and senseless arguments. Disarming the Narcissist offers a host of effective strategies for dealing effectively with someone who is at the center of his or her own universe.

Disarming the Narcissist will show you how to move past the narcissist's defenses using compassionate, empathetic communication. You'll learn how narcissists view the world, how to navigate their coping styles, and why, oftentimes, it's sad and lonely being a narcissist. By learning to anticipate and avoid certain hot-button issues, you'll be able to relate to narcissists without triggering aggression. By validating some common narcissistic concerns, you'll find out how to be heard in conversation with a narcissist. Finally, you'll learn how to set limits with your narcissist and when it's time to draw the line on unacceptable behavior.


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User Review  - marshapetry - LibraryThing

All around good book - good content and good narrator. I really enjoyed this book and learned quite a bit about myself while reading. While I'm nowhere near some of the narcissists the author ... Read full review



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Wendy T. Behary, LCSW, is founder and clinical director of the Cognitive Therapy Center of New Jersey and the NJ Institute for Schema Therapy. She is also a distinguished founding fellow of the Academy of Cognitive Therapy. She maintains a private practice, specializing in narcissism and high-conflict couples therapy.

Preface writer Daniel J. Siegel, MD, is the author of The Mindful Brain, and an associate clinical professor at the UCLA School of Medicine Center for Human Development.

Foreword writer Jeffrey Young, PhD, is the author of Schema Therapy, a Practitioner’s Guide, and founder/director of the Schema Therapy Institute Schema Therapy Institute of NYC.

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