The dance of anger: a woman's guide to changing the patterns of intimate relationships

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Perennial Library, Oct 1, 1986 - Psychology - 239 pages
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"Anger is a signal and one worth listening to," writes Dr. Harriet Lerner, in her renowned classic that has transformed the lives of millions of readers. While anger deserves our attention and respect, women still learn to silence our anger, to deny it entirely, or to vent it in a way that leaves us feeling helpless and powerless. In this ngaging and eminently wise book, Dr. Lerner teaches women to identify the true sources of our anger and to use anger as a powerful vehicle for creating lasting change. Book jacket.

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Review: The Dance of Anger: A Woman's Guide to Changing the Patterns of Intimate Relationships

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I would argue that this book is also relevant to males as I found the information both useful and mostly interesting. It is full of practical, instructive stories that most (perhaps middle class) people could relate to. Read full review

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Love love love this book. Helped me find ways to better express hurt and disappointment. Also learned to own my part in the dance. Read full review

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About the author (1986)

Well-known psychotherapist Dr. Harriet Learner has helped millions of women with relationship problems. Women around the world have benefited from Lerner's guidance in the bestselling series Dance of Anger, Dance of Intimacy, Dance of Deception. In her monthly column, Good Advice, which appears in New Woman magazine, the author gives practical answers to the big and little questions of life. In Life Preservers: Staying Afloat in Love and Life (1996) the reader who has read too many self-help books and is still not perfect is given a clear plan of action to cut through confusion. Other titles by Lerner include Women in Therapy: Devaluation, Anger, Aggression, Depression, Self-Sacrifice, Mothering, Mother Blaming, Self Betrayal, Sex-Role Stereotypes, Dependency, Work and Success, Inhibitions, and The Mother Dance: How Children Change Your Life. The author has also written a children's book, What's So Terrible About Swallowing an Appleseed , that examines the sister relationship and honesty. In addition, Lerner has created a series of self-help audio cassettes. Harriet Goldhor Lerner, Ph.D is a clinical psychologist and psychotherapist at the Menninger Clinic in Topeka, Kans. and frequent workshop leader, lecturer, and consultant. She is married and the mother of two sons.

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