Ten Lessons to Transform Your Marriage: America's Love Lab Experts Share Their Strategies for Strengthening Your Relationship

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Potter/TenSpeed/Harmony, May 16, 2006 - Family & Relationships - 256 pages
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In Ten Lessons to Transform Your Marriage, marital psychologists John and Julie Gottman provide vital tools—scientifically based and empirically verified—that you can use to regain affection and romance lost through years of ineffective communication.

In 1994, Dr. John Gottman and his colleagues at the University of Washington made a startling announcement: Through scientific observation and mathematical analysis, they could predict—with more than 90 percent accuracy—whether a marriage would succeed or fail. The only thing they did not yet know was how to turn a failing marriage into a successful one, so Gottman teamed up with his clinical psychologist wife, Dr. Julie Schwartz Gottman, to develop intervention methods. Now the Gottmans, together with the Love Lab research facility, have put these ideas into practice.

What emerged from the Gottmans’ collaboration and decades of research is a body of advice that’s based on two surprisingly simple truths: Happily married couples behave like good friends, and they handle their conflicts in gentle, positive ways. The authors offer an intimate look at ten couples who have learned to work through potentially destructive problems—extramarital affairs, workaholism, parenthood adjustments, serious illnesses, lack of intimacy—and examine what they’ve done to improve communication and get their marriages back on track.

Hundreds of thousands have seen their relationships improve thanks to the Gottmans’ work. Whether you want to make a strong relationship more fulfilling or rescue one that’s headed for disaster, Ten Lessons to Transform Your Marriage is essential reading.


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Lots of practical suggestions for improving marriage and communication. I liked reading the actual conversations and comparing them to conversations I have with my spouse. Great questions to discuss, useful advice - great handbook. Read full review

Ten Lessons to Transform Your Marriage: America's Love Lab Experts Share Their Strategies for Strengthening Your Relationship

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Husband-and-wife clinical psychologists John Gottman (The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work ) and Julie Schwartz Gottman observe spouses at their famed Seattle "Love Lab" to predict which ... Read full review

Contents

Cover
Will We Ever Get Over Your Affair?
CHAPTER3 After All the Crises in Our Lives We Dont
You Never Talk to Me
You Dont Care About My Dreams
What Are the Dreams Within Your Conflicts?
I Shouldnt Have to Nag
Theres No Passion Theres No Fun
We Only Have Time for the Kids Now
Youre Not Satisfied Unless Theres Some
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John M. Gottman, Ph.D., and Julie Schwartz Gottman, Ph.D., are the founders and directors of the Gottman Institute and the Relationship Research Institute in Seattle. The bestselling author of The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work and The Relationship Cure, among other books, John Gottman is a professor of psychology, an elected fellow of the American Psychological Association, and the recipient of numerous awards and commendations. His research and findings have been featured in the Wall Street Journal, Time, the bestselling book Blink, and in the broadcast media.

Julie Schwartz Gottman established the Gottman Institute’s Marriage Clinic and serves as its clinical director. A clinical psychologist, she is in private practice in Seattle, where she and John live.

Joan DeClaire is a writer specializing in psychology, health, and family issues.


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