Our Looks/Our Lives: Sex, Beauty, Power, and the Need to Be Seen

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HarperCollins, May 5, 1999 - Health & Fitness - 848 pages
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Do You Like What You See In The Mirror?

We all want to have it. Beauty. Today more than ever, our physical appearance determines how we judge ourselves and are judged by others. Like it or not, we live in the age of the Empty Package, when how we look takes precedence over such enduring qualities as integrity, kindness, and honesty. Now, in this provacative, entertaining book, the acclaimed author of the international bestseller My Mother/My Self reveals the truth about how looks affect our lives, and how life affects our looks.

In this thoroughly honest and upbeat book, Nancy Friday probes the power, allure, and mystique of beauty including: fashion, fear of competition, shoes and sex, adolescent pain, envy, the double standard of aging, fairy tales, feminism, love, and more. Part memoir, part history, Our Looks, Our Lives will forever change the way we all look in the mirror.

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User Review  - Jane Doe - Kirkus

Friday (Women on Top, 1991, etc.) describes women's self-image from infancy through old age, with lots of tiresome editorializing about the state of the women's movement today. Friday's defense of men ... Read full review

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User Review  - pipercat519 - LibraryThing

this was awful to read. I'm sure there were some good ideas in there somewhere, but I couldn't get past the too personal narrative. I really don't care who Nancy Friday was as a child. . . anymore than I care about her transformation as a powerful woman. Blaghh. What a waste of ime. Read full review

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About the author (1999)

Nancy Friday was born in Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania on August 27, 1937. She has made a career of writing about women's issues. Her first book, My Secret Garden, published in 1973, created a stir with its frank discussion of women's sexual fantasies. This theme was continued in Forbidden Flowers. In My Mother/My Self, Friday turns to another issue, the relationship between mothers and daughters. She returns to the subject of sexual fantasies in Men In Love, only this time approaching it from a male perspective. In The Power of Beauty, Friday explores how women's lives are affected by their appearance in a culture that values beauty. Friday is also the author of Jealousy, and Women On Top. Friday attended Wellesley College and has worked as a newspaper reporter, magazine editor, and freelance writer. Her articles have been published in magazines such as Cosmopolitan, Forum, and Playboy.

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