And Words Can Hurt Forever: How to Protect Adolescents from Bullying, Harassment, and Emotional Violence

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Simon and Schuster, Sep 2, 2003 - Education - 256 pages
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As a society, we are only just beginning to understand the degree of damage that bullying inflicts on individual teenagers and on their relationships later in life. In this groundbreaking work, James Garbarino and Ellen deLara uncover the staggering extent of emotional cruelty and its ramifications and counter the nursery rhyme that words don't hurt.

In this groundbreaking work, James Garbarino, the bestselling author of Lost Boys, and Ellen deLara uncover the staggering extent and consequences of schoolyard bullying and classroom hostility, flat-out contradicting the nursery rhyme that "words can never hurt you." The authors then present evidence that teenagers—hundreds of whom they interviewed—have the solution to school violence, if only adults would listen.

Bullying has long been regarded as a way of life. Ever since Columbine, however, student reactions to harassment and intimidation are, finally, driving parents to consider this phenomenon seriously. And Words Can Hurt Forever teaches parents to accept reality (bullying occurs daily), challenge old beliefs ("Kids will be kids" or "If I lived through it, so can they"), and ally with other parents to take on the school system. Revelatory and ultimately uplifting, And Words Can Hurt Forever doesn't just highlight the problem, but offers steps that can be taken—must be taken—to solve it.

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Childhood angst tends to torment parents as well as children and can erupt into the tragedy of school shootings. These books address such problems from fairly dissimilar perspectives. Psychologists ... Read full review


Emotional Violence Can Kill
The Secret School Life of Adolescents
Taking On the Myths of Adolescents at School
Issues of Power and Groups
The Many Faces of Bullying
Sexual Harassment and Stalking
The System Needs Repairs
Chapter8 Taking It
Everyones Affected
Principals and Teachers Stepping Up to the Plate
Final Reflections on the Emotionally Safe School
Resources on Bullying and Violence Prevention
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James Garbarino, Ph.D., is the author of Lost Boys and coauthor of Parents Under Siege. Formerly codirector of the Family Life Development Center and Professor of Human Development at Cornell University, he is now Professor of Social Work at Boston College. He lives in Boston, Massachusetts.

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