Why Can't I Be the Parent I Want to Be?: End Old Patterns and Enjoy Your ChildrenParents today are deluged by advice books from all corners. Rather than trotting out the same old rehashed information, Why Can't I Be the Parent I Want to Be? takes a look at what prevents parents from being effective parents, their own emotional obstacles. These obstacles, called schemas, are deeply held beliefs about ourselves and our relationships to other people, that can lead to extreme moods, distrustful behavior and negative thinking. Learning to identify the triggers and to control their schemas finally gives parents the freedom to parent effectively. |
Contents
THE UNEXPECTED NATURE OF OPPOSITES | 17 |
ASSESSING YOUR PARENTING STYLE | 37 |
GETTING RID OF GUILT | 65 |
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