The Sex-Starved Wife: What to Do When He's Lost Desire

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Simon and Schuster, Jan 1, 2008 - Family & Relationships - 224 pages
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In 2003, bestselling author and relationship expert Michele Weiner Davis' groundbreaking book, The Sex-Starved Marriage described the problems that occur in marriage when one spouse is vastly more interested in sex than the other and more importantly, what the couple could do to fix things. The book created quite a stir, but no one expected what happened next.

Weiner Davis was flooded with e-mails, letters, and phone calls from women, not with "headaches" and other predictable excuses for avoiding sex, but from women who were desperately unhappy because their husbands weren't the least bit interested in sex. Nothing these women said or did got their men to understand the pain and isolation that comes from a sexual void, and despite heartfelt pleas, they were unable to convince their husbands to seek professional help. Add to this the unspoken taboo about discussing low libido in men, and these women were left to believe that they were the only ones dealing with this problem.

If this sounds like your situation, Weiner Davis wants to tell you that you are not alone, and it is not your fault: there is a whole host of reasons why your husband might be experiencing low desire. Although Weiner Davis explains reasons men lose interest in sex--biological issues, personal troubles, and relationship problems--she's convinced that understanding the cause of a problem won't make your sex life any juicier; doing something about it will. The Sex-Starved Wife gives you the tools you need to present the information in the book so that your husband will not become defensive. You'll even learn methods for overcoming sexual dysfunctions such as performance anxiety, premature ejaculation, and effective ways for dealing with pornography or infidelity. If you and your spouse need additional support, Weiner Davis offers concrete advice on how to get your man to visit his doctor or seek other professional help.

When it comes to marriage, Weiner Davis has seen it all. She knows how important loving, satisfying sex is to a healthy marriage. The straightforward, psychobabble-free advice in this book will help you create the intimacy and connection for which you've been longing.

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Excellent book on an often ignored social problem.

User Review  - Lithuanian Lady - Borders

Finally, a book addressing a problem many wives encounter but many husbands would deny even exists! Enough of hearing on television and radio the popularly held myths that "Most men want sex all the ... Read full review

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The book holds 1 resounding message: be submissive, don't take it personally. Hard to do when you're the one on the empty/non-receptive end. Over & over it repeats, let him come to terms with his ... Read full review



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About the author (2008)

Michele Weiner-Davis is an internationally renowned relationship expert and therapist in private practice. She specializes in a revolutionary therapy approach-Solution-Oriented Brief Therapy-aimed at helping people change their lives quickly and painlessly. She is the best-selling author of" Divorce and Change Your Life and Everyone in It" and the co-author of" In Search of Solutions," She is the creator of the relationship program Keeping Love Alive. She lives outside of Chicago with her husband and two children. For more relationship advice, visit her website at

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