Mean Girls Grown Up: Adult Women Who Are Still Queen Bees, Middle Bees, and Afraid-to-Bees

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John Wiley & Sons, Sep 7, 2005 - Psychology - 256 pages
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Almost every woman has experienced bullying. Whether her role was that of victim, aggressor, or bystander, the pain of relational aggression (female bullying) lasts long after the incident has passed. In Mean Girls Grown Up, Cheryl Dellasega explores why women are often their own worst enemies, offering practical advice for a variety of situations. Drawing upon extensive research and interviews, she shares real-life stories from women as well as the knowledge of experts who have helped women overcome the negative effects of aggression. Readers will hear how adult women can be just as vicious as their younger counterparts, learn strategies for dealing with adult bullies, how to avoid being involved in relational aggression, and more. Dellasega outlines how women can change their behavior successfully by shifting away from aggression and embracing a spirit of cooperation in interactions with others.
 

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Review: Mean Girls Grown Up: Adult Women Who Are Still Queen Bees, Middle Bees, and Afraid-To-Bees

User Review  - Aliya - Goodreads

This is my 4th read on the topic, yet the book offered new insights which others didn't. If you're an attractive, well educated, confident woman with an aura then God help you, because wherever you'll ... Read full review

Review: Mean Girls Grown Up: Adult Women Who Are Still Queen Bees, Middle Bees, and Afraid-To-Bees

User Review  - Lynnette Flatt - Goodreads

I thought this book was very insightful into the world of relational aggression. I had not heard of RA until now. I believe forms of RA begin in grade school and continue throughout a woman's life. I ... Read full review

Contents

All Grown Up and Ready to Sting Adult Female Aggression
7
Why Women Arent More Like Men
20
Big Bullies and Other Aggressive Types The Queen Bee
32
From Mild to Bad and In Between The Middle Bee
42
Blindsided Backstabbed and Bruised The AfraidtoBee
54
Weapons of Choice
67
Our Own Worst Enemies Aggression at Home at Work and at Play
79
Women at Work
81
Who Are You in the Bee Dynamic? A Relational Aggression Assessment
147
Healing Residual Relational Aggression Overcoming the Past
162
The Power of Forgiveness
172
The Wont Bee
184
A New Relational You
197
Dont Stop with Yourself
214
Communication That Counts Connecting through Words
227
Talking to Yourself in Ways That Help
231

Sharing Space Ages and Stages of Aggression
97
Forced to Be Family The Good the Bad and the Very Ugly of Female InLaws
108
Mrs Popularity and the Mom Clique
119
Relational Aggression Where You Least Expect It
130
Recognize Revise and Internalize Changing the RA Way of Life
145
Netiquette Tips
233
Mentoring Resources
235
References
237
Index
240
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About the author (2005)

CHERYL DELLASEGA, Ph.D., is a professor in the College of Medicine and Department of Humanities at Pennsylvania State University. In addition to having written more than fifty academic publications, she is the author of three books: Surviving Ophelia, Girl Wars, and The Starving Family. Dellasega lectures frequently on the topics of relational aggression and mother-daughter relationships.

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