Nice Girls Don't Get the Corner Office: Unconscious Mistakes Women Make That Sabotage Their CareersBefore you were told to "Lean In," Dr. Lois Frankel told you how to get that corner office. The New York Times bestseller, is now completely revised and updated. In this edition, internationally recognized executive coach Lois P. Frankel reveals a distinctive set of behaviors--over 130 in all--that women learn in girlhood that ultimately sabotage them as adults. She teaches you how to eliminate these unconscious mistakes that could be holding you back and offers invaluable coaching tips that can easily be incorporated into your social and business skills. Stop making "nice girl" errors that can become career pitfalls, such as: Mistake #13: Avoiding office politics. If you don't play the game, you can't possibly win. Mistake #21: Multi-tasking. Just because you can do something, doesn't mean you should do it. Mistake #54: Failure to negotiate. Don't equate negotiation with confrontation. Mistake #70: Inappropriate use of social media. Once it's out there, it's hard to put the toothpaste back in the tube. Mistake #82: Asking permission. Children, not adults, ask for approval. Be direct, be confident. |
Contents
Playing the Game Safely and Within Bounds | 2 |
Assuming the Rules Boundaries and Strategies Are the Same for Everyone | 3 |
Dancing Around Pregnancy | 3 |
Sitting Out the Social Network Game | 5 |
Overlooking the Importance of Mentors and SponsorsAdvocates | 5 |
Working Hard | 7 |
Doing the Work of Others | 8 |
Working Without a Break | 9 |
Undervaluing Your Consultative Skills | 64 |
Using Only Your Nickname or First Name | 65 |
Waiting to Be Noticed | 66 |
Refusing HighProfile Assignments | 67 |
Not Sitting at the Table | 68 |
Being Modest | 69 |
Inappropriate Use of Social Media | 70 |
Ineffective Use of Social Media | 71 |
Being Naive | 10 |
Pinching Company Pennies | 11 |
Waiting to Be Given What You Want | 12 |
Avoiding Office Politics | 13 |
Being the Conscience | 14 |
Protecting Jerks | 15 |
Holding Your Tongue | 16 |
Unwillingness to Capitalize on Relationships | 17 |
Not Understanding the Needs of Your Constituents | 17 |
How You | 17 |
Difficulty Transitioning from Nice Girl to Winning Woman | 17 |
Failure to Prepare for Social Interactions | 20 |
Multitasking | 21 |
Ragging on Other Women | 22 |
Being Too ThinSkinned | 23 |
Polling Before Making a Decision | 24 |
Needing to Be Liked | 24 |
Not Needing to Be Liked | 26 |
Not Asking Questions for Fear of Sounding Stupid | 27 |
Acting Like a | 28 |
Trying to Be One of the Guys | 29 |
Telling the Whole Truth and Nothing but the Truth So Help You God | 30 |
TMI Too Much Information | 31 |
Being Overly Concerned with Offending Others | 32 |
Denying the Importance of Money | 33 |
Flirting | 34 |
Acquiescing to Bullies | 35 |
Decorating Your Office Like Your Living Room | 36 |
Feeding Others | 37 |
Minimizing Your Emotional Intelligence | 38 |
Being a Doormat | 39 |
Offering a Limp Handshake | 40 |
Being Financially Insecure | 41 |
Helping | 42 |
Chapter 4 | 42 |
Thinking Like an Employee | 42 |
Believing in the Myth of WorkLife Balance | 44 |
Making Miracles | 45 |
Taking Full Responsibility | 46 |
Obediently Following Instructions | 47 |
Viewing Men in Authority as Father Figures | 48 |
Limiting Your Possibilities | 49 |
Ignoring the Quid Pro | 50 |
Skipping Meetings | 51 |
Putting Work Ahead of Your Personal Life | 52 |
Letting People Waste Your Time | 53 |
Reluctance to Negotiate | 53 |
Prematurely Abandoning Your Career Goals | 55 |
Ignoring the Importance of Network Relationships | 56 |
Refusing Perks | 57 |
Making Up Negative Stories | 58 |
Striving for Perfection | 59 |
Nixing the Idea of an Entrepreneurial Venture | 59 |
Chapter 5 | 59 |
Failing to Define Your Brand | 61 |
An Elevator Speech That Doesnt Go to the | 62 |
Minimizing Your Work or Position | 63 |
Staying in Your Safety Zone | 72 |
Giving Away Your Ideas | 73 |
Working in Stereotypical Roles or Departments | 74 |
Not Soliciting Enough Feedback or Ignoring | 75 |
Being Invisible | 76 |
Overlooking Opportunities to ReBrand Yourself | 77 |
Ignoring Your Legacy | 78 |
Chapter 6 | 78 |
Couching Statements as Questions | 79 |
Using Preambles | 80 |
Explaining | 81 |
Asking Permission | 82 |
Apologizing | 83 |
Using Minimizing Words | 84 |
Using Qualifiers | 85 |
Not Answering the Question Youre Asked | 86 |
Talking Too Fast | 87 |
The Inability to Speak the Language of Your Business | 88 |
Using Nonwords | 89 |
Using TouchyFeely Language | 90 |
The Sandwich | 91 |
Speaking Softly | 92 |
Speaking at a HigherThanNatural Pitch | 93 |
Trailing Voice Mails | 94 |
Failing to Pause or Reflect Before Responding | 95 |
Overrelying on One Communication Style | 96 |
Ambivalence | 97 |
Confusing Problem Solving with Complaining | 98 |
Chapter 7 | 98 |
Obvious Body Ink and Piercings | 99 |
Smiling Inappropriately | 100 |
Taking Up Too Little Space | 101 |
Using Gestures Inconsistent with Your Message | 102 |
Being Over or Underanimated | 103 |
Tilting Your Head | 104 |
Wearing Inappropriate Makeup | 105 |
The Wrong Hairstyle | 106 |
Inappropriate Attire | 107 |
Sitting on Your Foot | 108 |
Grooming in Public | 109 |
Sitting in Meetings with Your Hands Under the Table | 110 |
Wearing Your Reading Glasses Around Your Neck | 111 |
Accessorizing Too Much | 112 |
Poor Eye Contact | 113 |
Chapter 8 | 113 |
Airing Your Feelings in Online Public Forums | 114 |
Putting a Stamp on with a Steamroller | 115 |
Holding a Grudge | 116 |
Internalizing Messages | 117 |
Believing Others Know More Than | 118 |
Taking Notes Getting Coffee and Making Copies | 119 |
Tolerating Inappropriate Behavior | 120 |
Exhibiting Too Much Patience | 121 |
Accepting DeadEnd Assignments | 122 |
Putting the Needs of Others Before Your | 123 |
Denying Your Power | 124 |
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