All That You Leave Behind: A Memoir

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Random House Publishing Group, Apr 9, 2019 - Biography & Autobiography - 256 pages
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“A documentary filmmaker and daughter of the late, great New York Times columnist David Carr celebrates and wrestles with her father’s legacy in a raw, redemptive memoir.”O: The Oprah Magazine

“A breathtaking read . . . a testimony equal parts love and candor. David would have had it no other way.”—Ta-Nehisi Coates, bestselling author of Between the World and Me 

NAMED ONE OF THE BEST BOOKS OF THE YEAR BY GLAMOUR AND MARIE CLAIRE

Dad: What will set you apart is not talent but will and a certain kind of humility. A willingness to let the world show you things that you play back as you grow as an artist. Talent is cheap. 
Me: OK I will ponder these things. I am a Carr.
Dad: That should matter quite a bit, actually not the name but the guts of what that name means.

A celebrated journalist, bestselling author (The Night of the Gun), and recovering addict, David Carr was in the prime of his career when he suffered a fatal collapse in the newsroom of The New York Times in 2015. Shattered by his death, his daughter Erin Lee Carr, at age twenty-seven an up-and-coming documentary filmmaker, began combing through the entirety of their shared correspondence—1,936 items in total—in search of comfort and support.

What started as an exercise in grief quickly grew into an active investigation: Did her father’s writings contain the answers to the question of how to move forward in life and work without her biggest champion by her side? How could she fill the space left behind by a man who had come to embody journalistic integrity, rigor, and hard reporting, whose mentorship meant everything not just to her but to the many who served alongside him?

All That You Leave Behind is a poignant coming-of-age story that offers a raw and honest glimpse into the multilayered relationship between a daughter and a father. Through this lens, Erin comes to understand her own workplace missteps, existential crises, and relationship fails. While daughter and father bond over their mutual addictions and challenges with sobriety, it is their powerful sense of work and family that comes to ultimately define them.

This unique combination of Erin Lee Carr’s earnest prose and her father’s meaningful words offers a compelling read that shows us what it means to be vulnerable and lost, supported and found. It is a window into love, with all of its fierceness and frustrations.

“Thank you, Erin, for this beautiful book.  Now I am going to steal all of your father’s remarkable advice and tell my kids I thought of it.”—Judd Apatow
 

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User Review  - CarrieWuj - LibraryThing

This memoir of Erin Carr's relationship with her Dad, David Carr is a good fit around Father's Day. Larger than life, he was her rock and sounding board, especially since they were both in the ... Read full review

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This memoir is partly Erin Lee Carr’s recounting of growing up with her father (writer David Carr), and partly her forging a career in media production, coming to terms with her alcoholism ... and ... Read full review

Contents

The Blue House
3
Rain Check
12
The Night in Question
16
The Ghost in You
23
It All Starts Somewhere
29
The Other Woman
38
Rites of Passage
41
How Not to Intern
46
Ninety Days
138
SOS
143
Jelly Beans
151
The Experiment
155
The Water Has It Now
163
The Wake
168
His Second Act
185
Traces
193

Something New
58
Holiday Party Advice
66
Far from the Tree
74
The House of Many Felled Trees
81
Stories Are There for the Telling
87
Tyranny of Self
94
Choose Wisely
98
The Criers Get Nothing
107
Sometimes You Get Both Barrels
118
Gut Check
125
Liability
133
The Upside of Getting Fired
198
Chatter
201
The Castle Without Its El Rey
205
If Its Not Getting Better Consider the Alternative
209
Resentments
214
Sad Girls Guide
220
A Glacier First Melts at the Edges
229
A List
235
READ WHILE WRITING THIs Book
237
Acknowled Gm ENTs
239
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About the author (2019)

Erin Lee Carr is a director, producer, and writer based in New York City. Named one of the “30 Under 30” most influential people in media by Forbes, Carr most recently directed At the Heart of Gold, about the USA Gymnastics scandal, and I Love You: Now Die, about the Michelle Carter murder-by-texting trial, both for HBO. She also directed “Drug Short,” an episode of Netflix’s critically acclaimed series Dirty Money. She lives in New York City, where she enjoys petting dogs on the street.

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