I Can't Believe I Just Did that: How (seemingly) Small Embarrassments Can Wreak Havoc in Your Life-- and what You Can Do to Put a Stop to Them
Social scientist David Allyn examines the subtly damaging effects of shame and embarrassment on our everyday lives-and offers powerful advice for identifying and managing them.
For many of us, when it comes to asking for a raise, asking someone to dinner, or just saying what we think in a difficult situation, a quietly lurking fear of embarrassment undermines our ability to effectively get the job done. Yet often-times, we are so accustomed to these feelings-or so eager to forget them once they have disappeared-that we fail to notice how dramatically they are shaping our actions.
In I Can't Believe I Just Did That, David Allyn draws upon extensive research in psychology and the social sciences, as well as the real-life experiences of the numerous subjects who participated in a study conducted for this book, to illustrate the impact embarrassment has on our day-to-day encounters. He shows readers how, if left unchecked, even the briefest incidents of embarrassment-in the checkout line at the supermarket or with a family member or coworker-can have negative repercussions on the important relationships in our lives. Through exercises designed to identify and ultimately dissolve these feelings of self-doubt and confusion, Allyn presents readers with a powerful program for transforming our spirals of shame into spirals of achievement.
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There are a lot of books out there about how to feel better, work better, just be better, but this one is a really practical one that I am actually going to try to follow though with. While the text ... Read full review
I Can't Believe I Just Did That: How (Seemingly) Small Moments of Shame and Embarrassment Can Wreak Havoc in Your Life-And What You Can Do to Put a Stop to ThemUser Review - Not Available - Book Verdict
This perceptive self-helper puts its finger on the sense of shame that is such a prominent feature of social psychology. Social scientist Allyn (Make Love, Not War) notes the ways in which pervasive ... Read full review
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