Things I Wish I'd Known Before We Got Married

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Moody Publishers, Sep 1, 2010 - Religion - 176 pages
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Gary Chapman writes, "Most people spend far more time in preparation for their vocation than they do in preparation for marriage." No wonder the divorce rate hovers around fifty percent. Bestselling author and marriage counselor Gary Chapman hopes to change that with his newest book. Gary, with more than 35 years of experience counseling couples, believes that divorce is the lack of preparation for marriage and the failure to learn the skills of working together as intimate teammates.

So he put together this practical little book, packed with wisdom and tips that will help many develop the loving, supportive and mutually beneficial marriage men and women long for. It's the type of information Gary himself wished he had before he got married. The material lends itself to heart-felt discussions by dating or engaged couples. To jump-start the exchanges, each short chapter includes insightful "Talking it Over" questions and suggestions. And, the book includes information on interactive websites as well as books that will enhance the couples experience.

Dr. Chapman even includes a thought-provoking appendix. By understanding and balancing the five key aspects of life, dating couples can experience a healthy relationship. A revealing learning exercise is included at the end.


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Great relationship advice overall! - Goodreads
Gary Chapman is an awesome writer and counselor. -
Short easy to read chapters. - Goodreads
Good, practical advice, if not a little bit obvious. - Goodreads
Basic helpful tips and ideas. - Goodreads
Good advice, nothing earth-shattering. - Goodreads

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I have a huge fan of the 5 Love Languages book by Gary Chapman. I thought this might be a fun book to read as well. It's a book designed ideally for engaged couples or even for people who are dating ... Read full review

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Chapter One That being in love is not an adequate foundation for building a successful marriage
Chapter Two That romantic love has two stages
Chapter Three That the saying Like mother like daughter and Like father like son is not a myth
Chapter Four How to solve disagreements without arguing
Chapter Five That apologizing is a sign of strength
Chapter Six That forgiveness is not a feeling
Chapter Seven That toilets are not selfcleaning
Chapter Nine That mutual sexual fulfillment is not automatic
Chapter Ten That I was marrying into a family
Chapter Eleven That spirituality is not to be equated with going to church
Chapter Twelve That personality profoundly influences behavior
Appendix Developing a Healthy Dating Relationship

Chapter Eight That we needed a plan for handling our money

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GARY CHAPMAN--author, speaker, counselor--has a passion for people and for helping them form lasting relationships. He is the #1 bestselling author of The 5 Love Languages series and director of Marriage and Family Life Consultants, Inc. Gary travels the world presenting seminars, and his radio programs air on more than 400 stations. For more information visit his website at

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