Things I Wish I'd Known Before We Got Married

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Moody Publishers, Sep 1, 2010 - Religion - 176 pages
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“Most people spend far more time in preparation for their vocation than they do in preparation for marriage.”

With more than 35 years of experience counseling couples, Gary has found that most marriages suffer due to a lack of preparation and a failure to learn to work together as intimate teammates.

So he put together this practical little book, packed with wisdom and tips that will help many develop the loving, supportive, and mutually beneficial marriage they envision, such as:

  • What the adequate foundation for a successful marriage truly is
  • What to expect about the roles and influence of extended family
  • How to solve disagreements without arguing
  • How to talk through issues like money, sex, chores, and more
  • Why couples must learn how to apologize and forgive

Ideal for newly married couples and those considering marriage, the material lends itself to heart-felt, revealing, and critical conversations for relational success.

Read this bookand you’ll be prepared for—not surprised by—the challenges of marriage.

Bonus features include:

  • Book suggestions and an interactive websites to enhance the couples’ experience
  • “Talking it Over” questions and suggestions to jumpstart conversations over each chapter
  • Appendix on healthy dating relationships and an accompanying learning exercise

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One of our pastors told me this was the book he recommended that couples work through before doing their pre-marital counseling sessions with him. In the book, Chapman condenses his "five love ... Read full review

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I was given a copy of Things I Wish I'd Known Before We Got Married by my pastor . I bought a copy for my daughter and an extra in case I find someone I want to connect with . So I would I really thing it is a great book. Read full review


Chapter One That being in love is not an adequate foundation for building a successful marriage
Chapter Two That romantic love has two stages
Chapter Three That the saying Like mother like daughter and Like father like son is not a myth
Chapter Four How to solve disagreements without arguing
Chapter Five That apologizing is a sign of strength
Chapter Six That forgiveness is not a feeling
Chapter Seven That toilets are not selfcleaning
Chapter Nine That mutual sexual fulfillment is not automatic
Chapter Ten That I was marrying into a family
Chapter Eleven That spirituality is not to be equated with going to church
Chapter Twelve That personality profoundly influences behavior
Appendix Developing a Healthy Dating Relationship

Chapter Eight That we needed a plan for handling our money

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GARY CHAPMAN--author, speaker, counselor--has a passion for people and for helping them form lasting relationships. He is the #1 bestselling author of The 5 Love Languages series and director of Marriage and Family Life Consultants, Inc. Gary travels the world presenting seminars, and his radio programs air on more than 400 stations. For more information visit his website at

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