Mothering Without a Map: The Search for the Good Mother WithinEvery woman longs to be a good mother. But what about those women who grew up “undermothered”—whose own mothers were well-meaning but unavailable, absent, distracted, or depressed? How are they to become the good mothers they aspire to be? In this beautifully articulate book, Kathryn Black, whose own mother’s early death inspired her award-winning In the Shadow of Polio, offers affirming news: One doesn’t have to have had a good mother to become one. Probing for answers from experts in psychiatry and psychoanalysis, social work, biology, and other disciplines, Black reveals that there are other paths to discovering the good mother within. This moving and powerful book shows how “wounded daughters” can become “healing mothers” who give their own children a legacy of security, happiness, and love. On the web: http://www.motheringwithoutamap.com |
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Page 133
... woman in a unique period of her own life , playing a unique cultural role and fulfilling a unique and essential role ... woman's life , it almost always can be evoked again . “ It is a unique , inde- pendent construct in its own right ...
... woman in a unique period of her own life , playing a unique cultural role and fulfilling a unique and essential role ... woman's life , it almost always can be evoked again . “ It is a unique , inde- pendent construct in its own right ...
Page 135
... woman's memories of hav- ing been cared for herself are called forth , either consciously or not . Opening to the baby's emotional needs evokes memories and emotions of having once been a baby . If a woman's parents were withholding and ...
... woman's memories of hav- ing been cared for herself are called forth , either consciously or not . Opening to the baby's emotional needs evokes memories and emotions of having once been a baby . If a woman's parents were withholding and ...
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... woman looked into the story she had heard about her mother long ago relinquishing a child , a half brother to the woman I interviewed . She found that her mother had become pregnant at fifteen and , although she married her teenage ...
... woman looked into the story she had heard about her mother long ago relinquishing a child , a half brother to the woman I interviewed . She found that her mother had become pregnant at fifteen and , although she married her teenage ...
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