My Brown Baby: On the Joys and Challenges of Raising African American Children

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Agate Publishing, Mar 14, 2017 - Family & Relationships - 274 pages
“The best site for thoughtful, fierce advice about parenting from a Black perspective” —Ebony

For almost a decade, national parenting expert and bestselling author Denene Millner has published thought-provoking, insightful, sometimes wickedly funny commentary about motherhood on her critically acclaimed website The site, hailed as a “must-read” by the New York Times, speaks to the experiences, joys, fears, sorrows, and triumphs of African American motherhood, from pregnancy and child-rearing to relationships and the politics of parenting black children.

After publishing almost 2,000 posts aimed at lifting the voices of moms and dads of color, Millner has now curated My Brown Baby, a collection of the website’s most important and insightful essays. This one-of-a-kind parenting book offers perspectives on the issues moms of color and mothers of children of color face as they raise their kids—from birthing while black to negotiating discipline to preparing children for racism.

Through her website, Millner has created a space for African American moms and parents of black children, many of whom long to lend their critical but all-too-often ignored voices to the national parenting discussion. Full of essays that readers of all backgrounds will find provocative, My Brown Baby acknowledges that there absolutely are issues that African American parents must deal with that white parents never have to confront if they’re not raising brown children. This book chronicles these differences with open arms, a lot of love, and the deep belief that though we may come from separate places and have different backgrounds, all parents want the same things for our families, and especially for our children.

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Natural Hair Wars
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Loosening Pop Cultures Hold on Black Children
Damn That Lil Wayne
Dont You Wish Your Daughter Was Hot like Tyra?
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Fear of a Black Booty
Confession I Let My Kids Watch Reality
The Joys Pains and Politics of Black Childrens Kinky Curls
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Just Say NO to the Stereotyping of African American Parents and Other Moms and Dads of Color
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Black Children and Racism
Guarding My Babies from the N Word
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Racist College Culture Black Student Survival at University
On Black Children Race and Lives That Mattered
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No Safe Place for Black Children
Five Valuable Lessons for What Kids Should Do in Volatile Encounters with Strangers and Cops
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About the author (2017)

Denene Millner is a contributing editor at Agate Publishing where she directs the Denene Millner Books imprint. She is the founder and editor of, a blog focused on parenting and race. Millner authored or coauthored 25 books, including four New York Times bestsellers.

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