Celebrating Interfaith Marriages: Creating Your Jewish/Christian Ceremony

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Macmillan, Apr 19, 1999 - Reference - 288 pages
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The first comprehensive wedding guide specifically for the Jewish/Christian couple who wants to honor both religious traditions in their service, vows, and readings.

Saying "I do" is one of the happiest moments in a couple's life together--but planning that trip to the altar can be a stressful ordeal. The minute an engagement is announced two full clans want to celebrate the union their way! When one of those families is Jewish (50 percent of whom now marry outside their faith) and the other is Christian, the religious details can increase the pressure on the bride- and groom-to-be. Celebrating Interfaith Marriages provides all of the expert advice on how to combine elements of the two faiths so everyone can rejoice with the bride and groom on their wedding day.

Devon Lerner draws from her twenty years of officiating interfaith weddings as she discusses the significance of vows and traditions unique to both faiths and suggests how to incorporate them into a service that is balanced and beautiful. She provides Christian and Jewish services readers can mix and match, as well as custom-bled ceremonies contributed by couples who have worked with her over the years. There's a chapter on how to avoid crashes on issues like location, when the ceremony takes place, and whether the bride and groom should see each other before meeting at the altar. A full section of readings, both biblical and secular, are here too, as well as anecdotes that will reassure and amuse. No interfaith couple will want to be without this essential handbook when they plan their special day.

 

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Contents

On the Emotional Side
5
From Your Parents Perspective
8
Understanding the Jewish Response to Jesus
9
Focus on the Celebration of Your Love
10
Rabbis Priests Ministers and Other Officiants
11
Finding a Priest
12
Working with a Rabbi and a Priest or Minister
13
Other Officiants
14
Two Ceremonies Between a Protestant and a Jew
102
The Wedding Ceremony of JoAnn Pappalardo and Steven Cooperstein
110
Menu of Passages for Each Element of the Service
119
Opening Remarks and Blessings
122
Explanation of the Huppah
126
Acknowledging Different Traditions
129
Acknowledging Children from a Previous Marriage
131
Remembering Loved Ones Who Have Died
133

Justice of the Peace Fees
15
Marriage Licenses
17
Outofstate Licenses
18
Interfaith Wedding Ceremonies
19
The Length of the Ceremony
21
The Huppah or Wedding Canopy
22
The Order and Content of the Ceremony
23
More Customs to Consider
39
Choosing Customs for Your Ceremony
44
When Jewish and Christian Traditions Conflict
45
The Date of the Wedding
46
The Processional
47
Where Does the Wedding Party Stand?
50
Processional Music
51
Do Guests Stand or Sit as the Bride Enters?
52
The Use of Hebrew
53
Blessing Before the Meal
54
Details That Make a Difference
56
Microphones
57
Placement of the Ritual Items
58
Outdoor Wedding Preparations
59
Videography
60
Honoring Parents
61
Checklist of Items to Bring to Your Wedding
62
From the First Draft to the Final Version
63
Edit Your First Draft
64
Enjoy Your Creation
65
Sample Ceremonies
67
Two Jewishstyle Ceremonies
69
The Wedding Ceremony of Linda Graetz and Jim Eng
76
Two Ceremonies Between a Catholic and a Jew
84
The Wedding Ceremony of Anita Seifert and Steve Georgon
94
General Marriage Blessings and Prayers
135
Blessing over the Wine
141
Circling
144
Affirmation of the Families and of the Guests
147
Vows
149
Ring Exchanges
155
The Unity Candle
159
The Ketubah Signing and Reading
163
The Seven Jewish Wedding Blessings
165
Pronouncement
176
Closing Prayers and Readings
179
The Yichud
184
Breaking of the Glass
185
Wedding Readings
189
Torah or Hebrew Scripture Passages
192
New Testament Passages
195
Modern Poetry and Prose
197
Traditional Wedding Ceremonies
209
A Reform Jewish Wedding
211
A Roman Catholic Wedding
218
An Episcopal Wedding
227
A Presbyterian Wedding
233
Ketubot
241
Orthodox Ketubah
243
Interfaith Ketubot
245
Hebrew Prayers with Their Transliterations and Translations
249
Blessing over the Wine
251
Blessing over the Candle
252
The Seven Wedding Blessings
254
The Priestly Blessing
257
Notes
259
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Rabbi Devon A. Lerner (Arlington, MA) has served congregations in Atlanta, Richmond, and Boston. She received an M.S.W. from Boston University in 1986 and since that time has had a private practice specializing in interfaith wedding ceremonies.

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