Desensitizing Anger: A Comprehensive Anger Management Guide

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Page Publishing Inc, Apr 17, 2015 - Self-Help - 188 pages
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 This book presents a new and powerful approach to anger management.

Instead of teaching you how to calm down once you become angry, this new approach trains you how not to get angry. John DeMarco M.Ed., LPC, a psychotherapist who specializes in anger therapy explains how you can train yourself to have a healthier less intense anger reaction. As you practice the skills outlined in this book you will see that the situations and problems that used to make you angry will no longer have that affect. You will be able to say, “I can’t believe that didn’t make me angry. I used to get so mad over that.”

The real cause of anger is confronted head on in this book. It is your thoughts that make you angry, not what actually happens. Understanding this is the key to learning how to confront problems without getting angry. There are four types of anger provoking thoughts that instantly go through your mind whenever you become angry. This book teaches you how to recognize these thoughts and how to stop having them. Developing this skill will dramatically change your anger reaction.

Think of reading this book as taking a personal training course in anger management:

• Learn the root cause of your anger

• Understand the connection between your automatic thoughts and your anger

• Practice four powerful anger desensitizing techniques

• Use self-directives that reduce and prevent anger

• Improve your sense of self-worth

• Handle problems effectively with others using new communication skills

• Develop a relapse and maintenance plan

• And much more…


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John Demarco nails it in this book... This book is life changing. It’s like a manual for life and behavior. The book can be applied to everyday life and many different situations. Whether it be a relationship issue, work related, family, friendships, etc . It is helpful in all aspects of your life. The book teaches you to learn about yourself, your behavior. It instructs you how to rewire your brain so that you don’t make mistakes under emotional duress. It gives you all the necessary tools you need in life to become a healthier, happier you. John Demarco is truly a genius in this book. I believe every person of all ages should read this book. It should be read by everyone because ever single person can benefit from these lessons. I give the book a 5+ star rating. I was extremely impressed and can't emphasis enough on how this book has changed me for the better! Thank you for your brilliance John Demarco!...Lisa C 

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Desensitizing Cognitive Triggers
Desensitizing Emotional Triggers
Important Extras
Maintenance and Relapse Prevention
Part Two Special Issues
Employers and Parents with Anger
Marriage and Anger
List of Anger SituationsSpikes

The Anger Process
Assertiveness Skills

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 John DeMarco M.Ed., LPC, is a private practice psychotherapist in northern New Jersey and specializes in anger therapy and relationships. In addition to doing anger therapy he does marriage counseling and helps parents who have children with behavior problems. Prior to that he was a public school mental health and substance abuse counselor and worked with disaffected and angry students. That experience led him to develop an interest in anger therapy. In the past fourteen years he has helped hundreds of adults who struggle with anger problems. During that time he developed a new and innovative treatment for anger, which focuses on desensitizing it. He is a Hazelden author of five other books. His most recent Hazelden book is Adolescent Group Facilitator’s Guide: Dynamic Discussion Starters.

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