Stuck: Why We Can't (or Won't) Move On

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Penguin, Dec 26, 2008 - Social Science - 336 pages
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"The brilliant mind behind Party of One examines the striking social trend: people are stuck and they want to change, but..." (San Francisco Chronicle)

In this book, Anneli Rufus identifies an intriguing aspect of our culture: Many of us are stuck. Be it in the wrong relationship, career, or town, or just with bad habits we can't seem to quit, we even say we want to make a change, but . . . Merging interviews, personal anecdotes, and cultural criticism, Stuck is a wise and passionate exploration of the dreams we hold dearest for ourselves-and the road to actually achieving them.

When faced with the possibility of change, our minds can play tricks on us. We tell ourselves: I can't make it. Or, It's not worth the effort. How is it that in a time of unprecedented freedom and opportunity, so many of us feel utterly powerless and unsure? In this book, Rufus exposes a complex network of causes for our immobilization- from fear and denial to powerful messages in popular culture or mass media that conspire to convince us that we're helpless in the face of our cravings. But there can be a light at the end of the tunnel: Rufus also tells the stories of people who have managed to become unstuck and of others who, after much reflection, have decided that where they are is best. After all, she writes, "what looks to you like a rut, others might say is true absorption in a topic, a relation­ship, a career, a pursuit, a place. What looks to you like bore­dom, others call commitment. And even contentment."

A brilliant glimpse into what truly motivates-or doesn't motivate-us, Stuck will inspire you to take a look at yourself in an entirely new light.
 

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Review: Stuck: Why We Can't (or Won't) Move On

User Review  - Michelle Stang - Goodreads

While I found her explanations of how and why we get stuck interesting, she never goes into how to get unstuck. That was disappointing. Read full review

Review: Stuck: Why We Can't (or Won't) Move On

User Review  - Marie - Goodreads

This book was interesting, though with a few too many anecdotes in my opinion (though that does indicate the book was well researched). Though she doesn't really offer any concrete advice for getting ... Read full review

Contents

STUCK IN THE PAST
STUCK ON HABITS
STUCK ON TRAUMA
STUCK ON OTHERS
CHAPTER 6 TAKE THIS JOB AND STUCK ON WORK
EPILOGUE
Copyright

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About the author (2008)

Anneli Rufus is the critically acclaimed author of Party of One: The Loners' Manifesto. A prizewinning journalist and poet, she has written for dozens of publications, including the San Francisco Chronicle, the Los Angeles Times, the Boston Globe, and Salon. She lives in Berkeley, CA.

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