Attaching in Adoption: Practical Tools for Today's Parents

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Jessica Kingsley Publishers, Feb 15, 2012 - Psychology - 400 pages
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Attaching in Adoption is a comprehensive guide for prospective and actual adoptive parents on how to understand and care for their adopted child and promote healthy attachment. This classic text provides practical parenting strategies designed to enhance children's happiness and emotional health. It explains what attachment is, how grief and trauma can affect children's emotional development, and how to improve attachment, respect, cooperation and trust. Parenting techniques are matched to children's emotional needs and stages, and checklists are included to help parents assess how their child is doing at each developmental stage. The book covers a wide range of issues including international adoption, Fetal Alcohol Spectrum Disorder, and learning disabilities, and combines sound theory and direct advice with case examples throughout. This book is a must read for anyone interested in adoption and for all adoptive families. It will also be a valuable resource for adoption professionals.

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User Review  - Apzmarshl - Goodreads

Compelling, honest, helpful, and hopeful. This book helped me travel back through the stages of attachment and see where my child was disrupted (during foster care and adoption) in his development ... Read full review

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User Review  - Colin Bendell - Goodreads

This is the quintessential book for future adoptive parents. A must read - though it will only help to academically understand the issues related to attachment and the risk of RAD. A personal note ... Read full review

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Equipping Parents of Children at Risk for Attachment Problems
What Is Attachment and Why Is It Important?
Challenges for Children and Parents
What Children Have Already Learned about Attachment
Grief and Its Effects
Trauma and Traumatic Loss
The Impact of Cultural Change
Other Complications for Attaching
The Fairness Factor
Building Emotional Intelligence
Forming a Team of Support
Getting Professional Help

Emotional Development Promoting Attachment at Every Phase
The Shape of Progress
Relaxing the Grip of Anxiety and Control
About the Publisher
About the Author

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Deborah D. Gray is the author of the bestselling book for parents, Attaching in Adoption: Practical Tools for Today's Parents and an award-winning book for professionals, Nurturing Adoptions: Creating Resilience after Neglect and Trauma. Deborah has been described as "attachment guru" by Adoptive Families magazine, and specializes in the attachment, grief, and trauma issues of children in her private practice, Nurturing Attachments, which is based in Kirkland, Washington, USA. Her passion is to help families develop close, satisfying relationships. A clinical social worker, she has worked over 25 years in foster and adopted children's therapies and placement. She has also been a therapeutic foster parent. Deborah is core faculty for the award-winning Post-Graduate Certificate program in Foster and Adoption Therapy at Portland State University. She is main faculty in the ATTACh-recognized Post-Graduate Attachment Therapy Certificate Program through Cascadia Training. She has taught in the Trauma Certificate Program at the University of WA and was the 2008 Henry W. Maier Practitioner in Residence at the School of Social Work at the University of WA. Deborah is a popular presenter due to her practical and positive approaches. She has keynoted conferences ranging from the Joint Council of International Children's Services to Orphan Conferences. She continues to work in a clinical practice with parents and children, who help to teach her new approaches and techniques every day. Visit her website at

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