No Secrets No Lies: How Black Families Can Heal from Sexual AbuseWith a foreword by Joycelyn Elders, M.D., No Secrets, No Lies is a powerful and daringly honest resource guide for families seeking to understand, prevent, and overcome childhood sexual abuse and its devastating impact on adult survivors. An estimated one in four women and one in six men is abused by age eighteen, most often by someone they know. Most of these sexual assaults are never disclosed, much less reported to the police. No Secrets, No Lies demystifies the cultural taboos and social dynamics that keep Black families silent and enable abuse to continue for generations. Among them: ?Fear of betraying family by turning offenders in to "the system" ?Distrust of institutions and authority figures, such as police officers ?Reluctance to seek counseling or therapy ?A legacy of enslavement and stereotypes about black sexuality Through compelling personal accounts from everyday people, Robin D. Stone, a sexual abuse survivor herself, illuminates the emotional, psychological and hidden consequences of remaining silent, and provides holistic, practical steps to move toward healing. No Secrets, No Lies candidly speaks to: survivors, telling them they are not at fault, not alone and how they can seek help; parents, guardians and caretakers, explaining how they can keep children safe and help survivors recover; and family, friends and other loved ones, showing ways to lend support. |
Contents
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Was It Sexual Abuse? II | 32 |
Understanding Roots of Silence | 49 |
Creating the Space to Talk | 75 |
AfricanCentered Healing | 114 |
Protecting and Saving Our Children | 145 |
Give Encouragement and Support | 169 |
Legal Issues and Finding a Lawyer | 202 |
Accountability and Responsibility | 226 |
Notes | 261 |
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No Secrets No Lies: How Black Families Can Heal from Sexual Abuse Robin Stone No preview available - 2005 |
No Secrets, No Lies: How Black Families Can Heal from Sexual Abuse Robin D. Stone No preview available - 2004 |
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