The New Single Woman

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Beacon Press, 2005 - Psychology - 316 pages
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Drawing on stories from diverse long-term single women, including herself, Trimberger explodes the idea that fulfillment comes only through coupling with a soul mate. Instead, she presents an exciting new identity possible for women in the twenty-first century: the new single woman—a woman who is content with her single life. This trailblazing woman is distinguished by six important characteristics: she has a nurturing home; satisfying work; is comfortable with her sexuality; connects with the next generation; finds emotional intimacy with friends and family; and creates a supportive community.

These gripping personal accounts of how single women’s lives evolve over time, combined with Trimberger’s incisive analysis, blend to provide a much-needed cultural roadmap for every single woman who is striving to create a satisfying and meaningful life. Trimberger’s provocative argument that married women and single women are not different or in competition but rather at opposite ends of a continuum that comprises many women, including bisexuals and lesbians, is a paradigm-shifting notion, one that ultimately strengthens and enriches both single women and couples.

“A much needed breath of fresh air. Women have been in bondage to the dream of the ‘soul mate’ for far too long, and Kay Trimberger gives us the inspiration and insight to get on with our lives.” —Barbara Ehrenreich

“Whether you have a soul mate, you’re looking for one, or you don’t and you’re not, this is a book that explores and expands the notion of human fulfillment.” —Arlie Russell Hochschild, author of The Commercialization of Intimate Life
 

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Contents

We Dont Have to Settle Soul Mates and Singleness
1
Sex and the Single Woman
20
Crafting Singular Lives
53
Nobodys Wife Nobodys Mother Nobodys Lover
88
Becoming a Whole Person Autonomy and LongTerm Singleness
115
Will I End Up as a Bag Lady? Childless Single Women
147
Without a Dad Single Women as Mothers
168
The Cultural Divide and Social Continuum between Single and Married Women
202
Friendship Networks as a Source of Community and Care
229
Challenging the SoulMate Ideal
254
ACKNOWLEDGMENTS
263
NOTES
267
WORKS CITED
295
INDEX
310
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Sociologist E. Kay Trimberger is professor emerita of women's and gender studies at Sonoma State University and is a visiting scholar at the Institute for the Study of Social Change at the University of California, Berkeley. The author of Intimate Warriors, she lives in California.

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