Someone I Love Is Gay: How Family & Friends Can RespondFinding out that a child, spouse, relative or friend is homosexual can be an unwelcome surprise. You're hit with a complex combination of emotions--grief, shame, fear, guilt. You are flooded with questions ranging from why to what's next. You wonder what a biblical response would be. At the same time, someone you care about deeply may be awaiting your response. What should you say? Someone I Love Is Gay was created out of Bob Davies's personal and professional experience and out of Anita Worthen's struggle with her son over these issues. Also drawing on experiences of others, the authors will help you handle your feelings while responding appropriately to your loved one. |
Contents
How This Book Can Help | 9 |
The Shocking Discovery | 11 |
Surviving the Emotional Turmoil | 22 |
The Continual Crushing Weight | 42 |
Do I Dare Tell Anyone? | 58 |
What Does Letting Go Really Mean? | 67 |
Uncovering Another Family Secret | 82 |
Living in the Shadow of AIDS | 95 |
Special Concerns Questions | 137 |
When a Friend Says Im Gay | 160 |
Concerns Questions | 179 |
Life After Homosexuality | 192 |
Afterword | 205 |
For Further Reading | 206 |
Resources for Additional Help | 210 |
Notes | 212 |
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