Hints on Etiquette and the Usages of Society: With a Glance at Bad Habits

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Otis, Broaders, 1844 - Etiquette - 154 pages

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Page 155 - Hints on Etiquette and the Usages of Society : With a Glance at Bad Habits. New Edition, revised (with Additions) by a Lady of Rank. Fcp.
Page 41 - If you should have to carve and help a joint, do not load a person's plate — it is vulgar : also in serving soup, one ladleful to each plate is sufficient.
Page 62 - Men often think when they wear a fashionably cut coat, an embroidered waistcoat, with a profusion of chains and other trinkets, that they are well dressed, entirely overlooking the less obtrusive, but more certain, marks of a refined taste. The grand points are — well-made shoes, clean gloves, a white pocket handkerchief, and, above all, an easy and graceful deportment.
Page 80 - ... serious or glaring violation of decorum. In small matters, ladies are both able and willing to take care of themselves, and would prefer being allowed to overwhelm the unlucky offender in their own way.
Page 29 - I have already said, that when a man marries, it is understood that all former acquaintanceship ends, unless he intimate a desire to renew it, by sending you his own and his wife's card, if near, or by letter, if distant. If this be neglected, be sure no further intercourse is desired. In the first place — a bachelor is seldom very particular in the choice of his companions. So long as he is amused, he will associate freely enough with those whose morals and habits would point them out as highly...
Page 62 - It is in bad taste to dress in the extreme of fashion ; and, in general, those only do so who have no other claim to distinction, — leave it, in these times, to shopmen and pickpockets. There are certain occasions, however, when you may dress as gaily as you please, observing the maxim of the ancient poet, to be
Page 125 - If you meet a friend in the street — in a coffee-house, shop, or indeed any public place, never address him by name ; at least, not so loudly as that others may hear it : sensitive people do not like to be " shown up " to strangers as " Mr. Jones," or
Page 154 - Gentility is neither in birth, manner, nor fashion — but in the MIND. A high sense of honor — a determination never to take a mean advantage of another — an adherence to truth, delicacy, and politeness, toward those with whom you may have dealings — are the essential and distinguishing characteristics of a GENTLEMAN.
Page 68 - ... thaw, walking in a dress only fit for a carriage. When country people visit London, and see a lady enveloped in ermine and velvets, reclining in a carriage, they are apt to imagine it is the fashionable dress, and adopt it accordingly, overlooking the coronet emblazoned on the panels, and that its occupant is a duchess or a marchioness at the least, and that were the same person to •walk, she would be in a very different costume, and then only attended by a footman.
Page 11 - ETIQUETTE is the barrier which society draws around itself as a protection against offences the " law " cannot touch ; it is a shield against the intrusion of the impertinent, the improper, and the vulgar...

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