The Ties that Bind and Bind and Bind: A Survival Guide to In-law Relationships

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Element, 1999 - Psychology - 288 pages
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In-law relationships are among the most challenging issues a couple must face. Holidays, money management and the most trivial of squabbles can turn into major obstacles for any couple when the in-laws are involved.

Many times in-law relationships can bring about the downfall of a couple. But many of the issues that cause these problems can be avoided -- even before marriage.

The Ties That Bind...and Bind...and Bind explores the life cycle of in-law relationships from all the players' point of view. Each chapter includes checklists of tips for each member of the family: parents-in-law, in-law children -- and the siblings are not ignored either! The author even includes the special issues associated with grandparents-in-law.

Two basic principles are the cornerstones of The Ties That Bind...and Bind...and Bind. If in-law problems fester and grow, they inevitably poison a couple's relationship. And, it is primarily the couple's responsibility to handle and prevent in-law problems before their marriage is adversely affected.

Sylvia Bigelsen, a marriage counselor with 25 years of experience, utilizes real case studies to illustrate various problems that couples encounter.

The Ties That Bind...and Bind...and Bind will help any couple:
-- look realistically at the origin of relationship difficulties
-- anticipate potential problems and work on solutions before the trouble begins
-- understand the way in which your family influences your assumptions and expectations of marriage and family
-- work toward and expect harmonious solutions to problems
-- recognize when compromise is not possible and make the best decision you can to work around the problem
-- realize that the source of solutions reside with you -- you can't change others, you can only change yourself.

The Ties That Bind...and Bind...and Bind offers guidelines for all kinds of couples, including engaged couples, newlyweds, parents and grandparents, as well as gay and lesbian couples and couples who are living together. With practical tips and checklists that all in-laws can use -- the entire family on both sides of a couple's relationship can work toward a more harmonious life together.

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