What Mothers Do Especially When It Looks Like Nothing

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Penguin, Sep 6, 2007 - Family & Relationships - 336 pages
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Instead of preaching what mothers ought to do, psychotherapist Naomi Stadlen explains what mothers already do in the course of any exhausting day's work. Drawing from countless conversations with hundreds of mothers spanning more than a decade, What Mothers Do provides lucid insight into the true experience of motherhood and answers the perennial question common to mothers everywhere: What have I done all day?

Stadlen's wise reflections, threaded throughout with the voices of real mothers, explore unsentimental reactions to motherhood-resentment, guilt, splintered identity, crippling inefficiency, and deadening fatigue. Yet the overriding sentiment is one of empowerment and wonder, as Stadlen illustrates how seemingly insignificant skills such as responding to a baby's colicky cry, being instantly interruptible, or soothing an overstimulated child to sleep profoundly contribute to an individual's socialization, self-worth, and curiosity. Remarkably perceptive and heartening, What Mothers Do will resonate with mothers everywhere in search of understanding and wisdom.
 

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What Mothers Do Especially When It Looks Like Nothing

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Stadlen presents a heartfelt and incisive examination of mothers' inner lives, revealing the vital worth of quiet (and not so quiet) time devoted to a baby. A psychotherapist specializing in parenting ... Read full review

Moms should read this!

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Howrefreshing to finally read a book that dosent tell you how to be amom but reassures mothers of how hard they work. I am a stay at homemom who finds myself feeling like being a Mom is not a worthey ... Read full review

Contents

introduction
1
who understands?
14
nothing prepares you
31
all the responsibility
47
being instantly interruptible
63
the power of comfort
70
I get nothing done all day
96
so tired I could die
128
what is motherly love?
172
I was surprised that I still had the same name
213
snapping at my partner
249
closer to my mother
275
circles of mothers
291
notes
304
bibliography
315
index
319

what do babies seem to want?
151

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About the author (2007)

Naomi Stadlen is a psychotherapist and the mother of three, and has run the weekly discussion group Mothers Talking for more than twelve years. She lives in London.

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