To Love, Honor, and Betray: The Secret Life of Suburban Wives

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Hachette Books, Feb 1, 2005 - Family & Relationships - 240 pages
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A provocative look at the lives of 26 married suburban women, offering a fascinating and nuanced portrait of marriage and infidelity.

Extramarital affairs are often whispered about behind closed doors. In this groundbreaking book, the doors open. Stephanie Gertler and Adrienne Lopez take an intimate and sensitive look at the lives of 26 married or previously married women who have either had an affair, are having an affair, or are wrestling with their conflicting emotions and loyalties as they consider the possibility of being unfaithful to their husbands.

The women are between the ages of 35 and 70. They hail from various cultures, races, professions, and economic levels. Most have children. Many crave passion, intimacy, conversation, romance. And when those things aren't forthcoming in their marriages, they seek them elsewhere. To Love, Honor, and Betray never judges: It provides candid conversations, rendering women's lives in ways that are surprising and moving, while offering remarkable insight into the complexity of long-term relationships. It's the book that women have been waiting for.

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Review: To Love, Honor, and Betray: The Secret Life of Suburban Wives

User Review  - Cathy - Goodreads

This book has an interesting premise. Suburban wives, Mrs. A - Mrs. Z, offer their stories of infidelity: some who are currently having affairs, some who already did, and some who wish they could ... Read full review

Review: To Love, Honor, and Betray: The Secret Life of Suburban Wives

User Review  - Kristi Johnson - Goodreads

Bought this book on the .99 shelf at Barnes & Noble. The first chapter was interesting, but sad. I didn't finish because the whole book was story after story of people who had affairs and why. Read full review

About the author (2005)

Stephanie Gertler is the author of four novels--Jimmy's Girl, The Puzzle Bark Tree, Drifting, and the forthcoming The Windmill. She writes a monthly lifestyle column for two Connecticut newspapers, the Stamford Advocate and the Greenwich Time. She lives in Westchester County, New York, with her family.

Adrienne Lopez is an attorney and independent TV and film producer with a first-look development deal at Spike TV. A former nationally syndicated talk show producer and network excutive, she also writes for several popular magazines. She lives in Westchester County with her family.

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