The Pursuit of Attention: Power and Ego in Everyday Life"Enough about me," goes the old saying, "what about you? What do you think about me?" Hence the pursuit of attention is alive and well. Even the Oxford English Dictionary reveals a modern coinage to reflect the chase in our technological age: "ego-surfing"--searching the Internet for occurrences of your own name. What is the cause of this obsessive need for others' recognition? This useful and popular volume, now in a second edition that features major new introductory and concluding essays, entertainingly ponders this question. Derber argues that there is a general lack of social support in today's America, one which causes people to vie hungrily for attention, and he shows how individuals will often employ numerous techniques to turn the course of a conversation towards themselves. Illustrating this "conversational narcissism" with sample dialogues that will seem disturbingly familiar to all readers, this book analyzes the pursuit of attention in conversation--as well as in politics and celebrity culture--and demonstrates the ultimate importance of gender, class, and racial differences in competing for attention. Derber shows how changes in the economy and culture--such as the advent of the Internet--have intensified the rampant individualism and egotism of today. And finally, in a new afterword, he focuses on solutions: how to restructure the economy and culture to humanize ourselves and increase the capacity for community, empathy, and attention-giving. |
Contents
Part IInformal Dynamics individualism | 2 |
Individualism FacetoFace | 9 |
On Being Civilly Egocentric | 18 |
Part IIFormal Dynamics Power | 33 |
The Overburdened Self and the Need for Attention | 78 |
Conclusion to the Second Edition | 89 |
Notes | 105 |
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American attention-behavior attention-dynamics attention-giving roles Attention-Interaction Project back regions background acknowledgments Barrie Thorne become behavior celebrity Chapter character character structure Christopher Lasch civil competitive conversational narcissism conversationalists corporate culture discussion displays distribution of attention dominant classes dynamics economic egoistic Erich Fromm Erving Goffman everyday expected feel female focus of attention formal interactions gain attention give attention Goffman groups individual initiative individualistic informal conversation informal interactions invisibility Jessie Bernard JOHN less listening male MARY minimal Morrie Schwartz mother narcissistic one's oneself ordinary conversation other-orientation partly focused patterns person political privileged professional psychology pursue attention pursuit of attention R. D. Laing relation René Spitz require response restaurant Richard Sennett ritual seek attention Seinfeld self-interest self-orientation self-oriented Sennett sexual shift-response social interaction society status structure studies subordinate classes subtle support-response supportive question talk tention tion Wally Lamb women workers worth Wright Mills
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Page vi - If I am not for myself, who will be for me? But if I am for myself only, what am I? And if not now, when?