The bonds of love: psychoanalysis, feminism, and the problem of domination

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Pantheon Books, 1988 - Psychology - 320 pages
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Why do people submit to authority and derive pleasure even others have over them? What is the appeal of domination and submission, and why are they so prevalent in erotic life? Why is it so difficult for men and women to meet as equals? Why, indeed, do hey continue to recapitulate the positions of master and slave?

In The Bonds of Love, noted feminist theorist and psychoanalyst Jessica Benjamin explains why we accept and perpetuate relationships of domination and submission. She reveals that domination is a complex psychological process which ensnares both parties in bonds of complicity, and shows how it underlies our family life, our social institutions, and especially our sexual relations, in spite of our conscious commitment to equality and freedom.

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Review: The Bonds of Love: Psychoanalysis, Feminism, & the Problem of Domination

User Review  - Cansu Çetin - Goodreads

It is pretty good and easy to read. I've read it enthusiastically as if it were a novel... Read full review

Review: The Bonds of Love: Psychoanalysis, Feminism, & the Problem of Domination

User Review  - Simon - Goodreads

Not sure this belongs on my "read-enough-of" shelf (for books where I think I've got the gist adequately) rather than on my simply "unfinished" shelf, but what the heck. I'm gonna live dangerously ... Read full review


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Benjamin is associate professor of clinical psychology at the New York University Postdoctoral Program in Psychotherapy & Pyschoanalysis

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