When I Say No, I Feel Guilty: How to Cope--using the Skills of Systematic Assertive Therapy

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Bantam Books, 1975 - Self-Help - 324 pages
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The best-seller that helps you say: "I just said 'no' and I don't feel guilty!"  Are you letting your kids get away with murder?  Are you allowing your mother-in-law to impose her will on you?  Are you embarrassed by praise or crushed by criticism?  Are you having trouble coping with people?  Learn the answers in When I Say No, I Feel Guilty,  the best-seller with revolutionary new techniques for getting your own way.

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User Review  - dbookbinder - LibraryThing

The book I most often take off my shelf and show to clients. Even if all you learn from it is the "Broken record" technique and accept that his "Assertiveness Bill of Rights" applies to you, it can change your life for the better. Read full review

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User Review  - patrickire - LibraryThing

I studied this work about 20 years ago and incorporated it's concepts into my life and dealings with people. It has been an enormous help. I have returned to my study notes on this book many times ... Read full review


Our inherited survived responses coping with other people by fight flight or verbal assertiveness
Our prime assertive human righthow other people violate it
Our everyday assertive rightsthe common ways other people manipulate us

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Smith is a clinical experimental psychologist. He is assistant clinical professor of psychology at UCLA. He is a member of The American Psychological Association, The Society of Psychophysiological Research.

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