Lesbian ex-lovers: the really long-term relationships

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Harrington Park Press, Nov 12, 2004 - Family & Relationships - 255 pages
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""We have earned a certain place in each other's lives, and in the best of times we can rest on what we have made together.""
Lesbian Ex-Lovers: The Really Long-Term Relationships examines the need for the development of better understanding and more critical analysis of lesbian ex-lover relationships. This eye-opening look into the minds and hearts of women offers personal insight into the possibilities for and potential pitfalls of lesbian ex-lover relations. This book contains personal stories, fictional accounts, poetry, and theoretical analyses of the frequency and significance of ex-lovers at different stages in a relationship.
Topics of interest in Lesbian Ex-Lovers include: the roles ex-lovers play in our lives ex-lovers as contexts for change and development how we continue to be influenced by ex-lovers letting go and moving on ex-lovers as current friends and family themes of betrayal and loss of faith reconstructing friendships and community the mystique of the ex-lover friend/family connections among lesbian ex-lovers ""Rather than totally scrap a relationship, we recycle it--from lover to ex-lover to friend in a relatively short half-life.""
Lesbian Ex-Lovers is the only book in print that explores how a lesbian's ex-lovers impact her subsequent romances and lifestyle. This special collection adds a new dynamic to the current literature for and about the lesbian community.
Lesbian Ex-Lovers offers advice, anecdotes, and interpretations from such authors, poetesses, and artists as: Michelle Gibson, PhD--educator and editor of "Femme/Butch: New Considerations of the Way We Want to Go"-- who says goodbye to her lover in a sad, passionate elegy Marny Hall--Psychotherapist, editor of the anthology "Sexualities," and author of several books, including "The Lavender Couch: A Consumer's Guide to Psychotherapy for Lesbians and Gay Men"--who muses on the unique bonding between lesbians and their ex-lovers, lending a mystique that surrounds the lesbian lifestyle Alison Bechdel--creator of the comic strip Dykes to Watch Out For--who presents a humorous comic strip thanking her former lovers for teaching her about herself Jane Futcher--newspaper reporter and author of three novels--who uses a chapter in her novel to illustrate the tensions that can occur when ex-lovers choose to remain friends, especially when those bonds provoke jealousy in both current and ex-lovers Renny Christopher--educator and award-winning poetess--who expresses her love, loss, and regret in three poems about her ex-lover and much more!

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About the author (2004)

Jacqueline S. Weinstock is Assistant Professor of Liberal Studies at the University of Washington Tacoma. She is co- author of Public Homeplaces: Women and the Struggle against Otherness (Belenky, Bond & Weinstock).

Rothblum is a Professor of Psychology