The Ultimate Insider's Guide to Adoption: Everything You Need to Know About Domestic and International Adoption

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Grand Central Publishing, Jun 27, 2009 - Family & Relationships - 368 pages
So you've made the decision to adopt. What's next? For starters, how do you know whether domestic or international adoption is right for you? (And what are the real differences between the two?) Adoption insider Elizabeth Swire Falker answers these questions and many more. As an attorney who practices in the area of adoption and has worked with hundreds of families, and as an adoptive parent herself, she offers expert advice on each stage of the process. This comprehensive, accessible guide leads you with confidence through every decision you'll have to make-including the ones that you'd never know to expect. Complete with checklists, tips, sidebars, and plenty of counterintuitive advice, it shows you how to:
  • Identify which adoption experts you do and don't need
  • Find the right birth mother or choose the right country for your family-and how to spot red flags in potential situations
  • Select an attorney or agency and prepare for your home visit
  • Finance an adoption on a budget, manage the red tape, and get around the roadblocks
  • Navigate all of the complex emotions that surface along the way. .
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With Elizabeth Swire Falker's warm yet been-there-done-that voice, THE ULTIMATE INSIDER'S GUIDE TO ADOPTION is sure to become a tried-and-true resource for adoptive parents everywhere.

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Question 1 The Baby Age Issue
Question 2 Birth Family Contact Identity Issues and Relinquishment Laws
An Unforeseen and Unexpected Perspective
Houston We Have a Problem
This Is All Part of the Parenting Experience
Scoping Out the Scammers and Identifying the Risky Situations
Deciding Whether to Decorate a Nursery and Other Steps in Preparation for the Babys Arrival
Yes It Can Be Done
Deciding Whether to Attend the Birth Sit in the Waiting Room or Stay Home and Wait for a Phone Call
The Essential Domestic ExpectingtoAdopt Travel Checklist
Lets Give the Term Honeymoon New Meaning

Question 4 Ethnicity Issues
Question 5 Finances
Question 6 Medical Background and Health Information
Question 7 Parents with Special Needs
Show Me the Money
Grants Loans Your Boss and Uncle Sam to the Rescue
Is it Really Worth it?
When in Doubt Disclose
TypeA Personalities and the New York Minute versus Southern Personalities and the LaidBack Style
How needy are you right now?
How much money do you have right now?
Do you live in a state that requires an agency to be involved in your adoption process?
Are Agencies Really Better than Attorneys?Are Attorneys Really Better than Agencies?
Hiring Your Adoption Professional
Know the Law
Is the Birth Mother Telling You the Truth?
Never Enter Into a Completely Open Adoption with an Unstable Birth Mother
Finding a Baby and Becoming a Marketing Expert
And You Thought Meeting Your InLaws Was Scary
Always Keep Your Cell Phone Handy No Matter How Long Youve Had It
Plan Ahead for Your Hotel Stay
The Essential Domestic Adoption LivinginaHotel Checklist
Managing Friends and Family Sleepless Nights Piles of Laundry and the Postadoption Blues
Choosing a Country
Choosing Your Adoption Professional
Choose Your Adoption Professional Carefully to Ensure a Smooth Process
Completing Your Dossier and USCIS Forms Without Losing Your Mind and Eyesight
The Essential International ExpectingtoAdopt Travel Checklist
Talking to a Specialist and Getting Your Immunizations
Dont Forget This Is Supposed to Be a Special Time Too
To Shower or Not to Shower
Yes It Can Be Done
The Essential International Adoption LivinginaHotel Checklist
From Beijing to BostonHold On Youre in for a Bumpy Ride
Managing Friends and Family Sleepless Nights Piles of Laundry and the Postadoption Blues

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