Loves Me, Loves Me Not: The Ethics of Unrequited Love

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Baker Academic, Nov 1, 2005 - Religion - 265 pages
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It hurts when the one you love doesn't love you back. It's hard to be the object of someone's desires when you just don't feel the same way. How should Christians deal with these situations? There are hundreds of books describing how to build lasting relationships or how to lead a chaste life as a single person. There are very few books, however, describing how to deal with unrequited love. With Loves Me, Loves Me Not, Laura Smit fills this void.

Smit tackles this universal human experience with intelligence, sympathy, and wit. An accessible book, Loves Me, Loves Me Not will be an invaluable tool for youth pastors; singles group leaders; college students; and students of human sexuality, marriage and family, and Christian ethics.

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Unrequited love, a staple theme in fiction and film, has rarely been touched in nonfiction writings and even less often by ethicists or theologians. Smit (theology, Calvin Coll., Grand Rapids, MI) has ... Read full review

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This book, written by a Presbyterian pastor and theologian, deals with unrequited love from a Christian perspective. While an unusual topic, she deals with it with compassion and grace. Topics include ... Read full review


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Interactions with Culture
Rejecting Pursuing and Recovering
A Word to the Church

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Laura A. Smit (Ph.D., Boston University) is dean of the chapel and assistant professor of theology at Calvin College. She is ordained in the Presbyterian Church (USA) and the Christian Reformed Church and has served in a variety of pastoral settings.

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